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Sending Our Children to Public School
  • September 30, 2019

Yes! You’ve read it correctly! We indeed enrolled our children ( 3 of them) into a brick and mortar public school. After nearly 3 years of home education, we decided to go a different route. Teacher burn out is real so imagine being both the parent and teacher? It became overwhelming and none of us were happy about it. I was stressed, I was tired, I was annoyed. It took months for me to decide what to do and what will be best for my children. I wanted to try an online curriculum but the risk of it not working for my children wasn’t worth it on our pockets. My husband then suggested putting them into the school district. I felt defeated. I felt discouraged. Am I not enough for my children? Am I no longer needed? These questions threatened me for months. Even after deciding to re-enroll them I felt like I had lost. I already had to deal with the questions about my children’s social life, now this!? How will I tell people I no longer teach my children? So I didn’t. Only a handful of people (that’s including family) knew about our decision to re-enroll them in public school.

So, in February 2019, I took 3 of my children to our district’s schools and re-enrolled them. I know you may wonder why 3 and not all 5.? Let’s backtrack…

October 2015, I’ve had enough of the public school system. The unnecessary conferences and calls.  The car lines and bus rides. The inconvenience of the school day period! It started with my youngest. I enrolled her into a pre-k program while I taught at a school. She was only 3 at the time. I rushed her into an environment that was waiting for her to fail. She wasn’t ready for school. She couldn’t defend herself. She was labeled even though she was the brightest student in the class. What was mistaken for rebellion was fear. My then 3-year-old was terrified of her teacher. To this day, my daughter complains about the teacher. She’s 6 now, but children don’t forget their feelings toward people and yes they are very forgiving but they don’t forget. She was withdrawn from the program and I resigned from teaching to teaching her at home. A few months later, issues arise with my son and my oldest daughter. “They are bored”, said their teachers. My children were outgrowing the school. They were no longer challenged and motivated. Their grades dropped. Their attitudes toward the teachers grew. All of the calls home and notes sent, I had enough! My other two daughters were thriving but weren’t challenged enough. I took my children out and transferred my second oldest in K12. K12 provided the challenges she needed and she has been thriving ever since. The other children couldn’t qualify right away so I began to create my own curriculum. So for the next 3 years, that’s what I did. I created curriculums based on their strengths and weaknesses. It was a lot of work and I have a ton of grey hairs to show for it.

Fast forward to February 2019, 3 of my children began their brick and mortar school experience. Enrolling my 2nd and 3rd grader was easy for the most part because everyone knew us and I left with a great working relationship with the staff of their school. They were happy to have them back. I enrolled them in time to partake in State testing. My son was enrolled in his rightful grade, 3rd grade. He hated it so much because at home he was working on 4th-grade material. I encouraged him enough to where he was confident to stick it out and happened to end the school year with amazing grades! My daughter who enrolled as a 2nd grader thrived. She shared a class with many of her dance friends. My oldest, who enrolled as a 7th grader did well and didn’t complain much about the schoolwork because she was well acquainted with many of the subjects because of what I taught her at home. I was left encouraged. I felt accomplished. While they were at school, my second oldest and youngest were at home with me. Traveling back and forth to the schools was stressful and I didn’t miss that at all. I was so ready for the school year to end and they were only there for a few weeks 🙂 

Testing came and gone and the school year was complete. We transferred our children out of the traditional brick and mortar schools and enrolled them all (except the youngest) in K12. Today, we have 4 of 5 of our children in an online school. We are all still adjusting to this new way of learning, but I am so happy to have my children back at home.

So how did my children enjoy public school those few months? Hear it from their words:

R1: Public school was really fun! I miss all my friends there. And they all miss me, says my Bff next door. I learned a lot. Now that I’m back at home, my fam really annoys me sometimes. Learning with K12 is difficult and hard to understand, but I am getting better.”

R3: ” Being at home with the girls again sucks but at school, the teachers were mean and unhappy all of the time. But now, I can do all of my work at once and be done for the rest of the day.”

R4: “I miss my friends but I see them at dance class. I am happy to be home and do all of my work fast. Plus the food is better at home.”

Now, I can honestly say, when my kids were at school, my refrigerator took a break. But the food was still gone fast because, after school, they were hungry. 🙂

Today, we are wrapping up our school day. They all had their lunch and with today being the day before grocery shopping, food is low so I had to get creative! :)But K12 has made my life easier now that I don’t have to worry about a curriculum and most importantly my children’s safety and innocence. As their learning coach, I am involved in their education and have access to the teachers all week long. I am blessed to have K12 in my home because I can have my children with me. We can travel whenever we want and not have to worry about attendance because schooling can be done on the road! School supplies and materials are provided and all I have to do is store everything. K12 is a wonderful option for me and I am grateful that because I did enroll my children earlier this year; because of that decision, we were able to qualify for K12. So now, I have 4 of 5 children enrolled at a K12 school. My youngest is still too young, but soon she will join them!

I take this experience as a lesson learned. Life can through curveballs and leave you discouraged, but trust the process and process have its time. Everything that was meant to be will be.

 

 

Intentional Reading: Our Daily Bread
  • January 22, 2019

 

Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’

Matthew 4:4

 

Now we are in full swing of the new year, we tend to make empty promises or deliver ill-intention resolutions. We say we will do more in our community, read more books in a month and so much more. In this season in my life, I’m in a place in my life that a new year shouldn’t dictate how I live in it. Living your life with a purpose every day, every year should be everyone’s life goals.  It’s easy to be complacent, but this season, I’m making my study time more intentional.

A few weeks ago, I was listening to a podcast by John Piper entitled, How Do I Make the Most of Daily Bible Reading and I was left encouraged. There are days when I feel unmotivated and life tends to get the best of me. I know there are reassurances in the Word of God, but I am usually stomped to find a passage of scripture to study or meditate on. With all the journals and devotionals I’ve been gifted or downloaded over the past few years has been used and I know is a great way to begin a study, but I’ve been in the search of something deeper. While listening to the podcast, John Piper mentioned this Discipleship Journal Bible Reading Plan so I signed up for a free download.

So this is a 25-day reading plan. Normally, you have a 30-day reading plan or devotional. This 25-day plan is for those of us who miss a day and try to make up days. So you have 5-6 days to make up if needed without feeling as if you didn’t commit to completing the month. The days are scheduled to following a particular test with backup scriptures for complete understanding and revelation. I know for me, with other plans, I would read a passage of scripture and would finish my study time with questions. I am confident in my study and journal time with this plan. 

I plan to follow-up at the end of February to update you. If you’re looking to take your personal Bible study to a new level, join me! I am excited to see what God says this year!

Five Things I’ve Learned about Homeschooling
  • February 12, 2018

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6

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Homeschool Our Way: Our Fourth Grade K12 Learner
  • November 10, 2017

It’s been a long time since I last post and I am trying to get back into the swing of things…but I’m back!!

Here’s a small recap…

Early this year, we decided to home school our five children. This decision was based on our experience with our youngest child in preschool. You can refer to that post for the details. Anyway, we are entering into our 12th week of homeschooling and to say the least, it has been challenging yet rewarding! Our the next few posts, I will break down each child’s curriculum and experience.

Today, we will get a quick look at Rylee’s curriculum. We decided K12 was a good fit for Rylee. K12 is an online public school using Texas curriculum and expectations. Honestly, the program is little more advanced than your average brick and mortar institution but Rylee is handling it like a champ! The first few weeks was a learning curve, but we finally understand the structure and expectations of the program. Rylee is our only online learner and I know she loves the idea of being the only one in the house to do this program. Rylee’s lessons are all self-paced but being her learning coach, I like to keep up with the teachers and lesson plans given. Lessons are emailed in 3 week sections and Rylee has the ability to stay ahead of her work. I am still trying to get use to her teachers because some of them are always late sending required work and assignments which makes it difficult to stay ahead because we are almost always an assignment behind. Other than that, Rylee is maintaining her grades and received A’s and B’s this past quarter!! Go Rylee!!! If you have any questions about K12, you can refer to their website or leave a comment below!

Also you can click on the video and get an idea of what Rylee’s curriculum is all about!!

When Homeschooling Became Our Only Option
  • April 28, 2017

Welcome to my blog!! I haven’t been very active this year and it’s for a really important reason!

I am officially homeschooling my children. I’ve been fighting this for over 10 years and circumstances has brought us to the very important choice to home school our children.

I am very appreciative of the teachers that helped make learning fun and I am quite grateful for the experiences (good and bad) that help make my decision easier. But it was very hard to remove my comfort zone… public education.

After obtaining my degree in Education, I knew that I wanted to be a teacher. I wanted to change lives and mold great citizens. For over a year and a half, I’ve been hearing “Be the Change” and I was certain I knew what that entails. Not until recently, I was faced with situations that can easily be taken care of at home or for that matter would have never occurred. As a mom, my first reaction is to protect my children from outside influences, to guard their “gates”. I became offended by the remarks and excuses educators gave when it came to my children. Comments like, “Your child has become very distracted and uninterested in class. Their grades are amazing but I’m feeling that their lack of interest would do more harm than good.” This comment I have been hearing all year!! I would hate that my A students would be labeled as interested and possibly an issue for future educators.

We are big on education and to know that this simple comment can make or break my children in the future wasn’t a risk I wanted to take.

Although I kept receiving calls and emails and my uninterested children, my parenting and home life was questioned but I still tried to pursue teaching. Twice I’ve attempted to pass my certification and both times was unsuccessful. I truly believe this was my way out. My husband sat down with me and he made things clear for me. He said, obviously teaching in the public school isn’t for you, this is our chance to home school our own children. Then, it clicked, to be the change, it must start at home! I cried! To make things even more emotional, the first day home after I resigned from co-teaching at a public school, my youngest walked up to me (not knowing what I was thinking about) said, “I’m important too. I need you too!”

I dropped my insecurities about failing the certification (and to me failing at life) and started my research in home schooling again.

 

Then… the questions began to fill in my head….

“Will I have the patience for this?! I mean that 5 kids at all different levels in education!!”

“Am I being selfish for wanting my time alone during the day?”

“Can I do this?!”

“I think I will give up easily! Public education will eventually become my backup plan!”

 

Then it dawned on me… Patience for MY kids?! Are you serious!? I was willing to teaching 24 kids at a time with different learning styles and levels but I can’t teach my own FIVE children?!

There’s always time for myself if I’m willing to make time! YES I can do this and I will!!! I became my biggest discouragement! I refuse to fail!

My children need me and I will do this!! So the decision was made! So my kids will be home schooled!

 

BEST DECISION EVER!!

I’m a month in at home schooling and NO it is not easy and YES it will get better!! I am constantly changing my lesson planning and even trying out higher grade levels for my children. I know how easily bored children can become so the great outdoors and trips to the library make teaching and learning fun for all of us. Right now, I’m home schooling my youngest three. The oldest girls will begin this summer!

Home schooling is convenient and we can get a lot done in a short time. Vacations can be whenever we feel like it and no one will ever be absent! I am grateful for the opportunity to teach my children and I look forward to all they will do!

Be the change starts at home! I am the change my family needed and it begins with a “yes”. Yes I am willing to do what it takes to make my children successful. Yes I am willing to give them opportunity to explore and be kids! They deserve that much!

 

Stay tuned for more home schooling updates and curriculum suggestions!!

Thanks!!

TeacherMom

 

 

Encouraging Mothers Who’s Done Having Babies
  • July 13, 2016

THE. END.

“Is it really?”

“You don’t really mean that.”

“Why would you do such a thing?!”

“But, you’re such an awesome mother!”

“Did you talk to God about this?!?”

“The bible says to “Be fruitful and multiple…” “

Yes. It is definitely the end to that phase of my life and I’m perfectly okay with it. Everyone has their opinion about the decisions made and that’s okay! People will guilt you about your decision to stop having babies but you have to be confident in your decision.

My husband and I sought the Lord about the idea of not having any more children. I was almost afraid to make that request but I asked Him to bless my womb and give me as many babies as I can get.

(Back story) I come from a very large family and I know with all of the experienced I’ve gain, I knew I would be a great mother. God has blessed my womb even when I was told at the age of six that I would not conceive because I ate some of my mother’s birth control. Well, fast forward to 2012, we found out we were pregnant with our fifth child. We were excited as always but we knew we were coming to the end of our stage of having more children. It just felt right to end at baby #5. As with our other children, my husband waited for God to reveal our baby’s name. One morning, he woke me up and said “Rebekah”. So we began to search the meaning of the name and it means “Captivating; knotted cord”. When we saw the meaning, we knew God gave us the OK to let Rebekah be the last child of our little family. So, March 2013, 2 months after her birth, I knotted the cord… well Essured it.

What is Essure? How does it prevent pregnancies? The small Essure inserts are placed into your fallopian tubes by your doctor. These inserts work with your body to form a natural barrier that keeps sperm from reaching the eggs, preventing pregnancy. While the natural barrier forms over time, another form of birth control must be used.

I’ve heard mostly negative reviews about this form of contraceptive (ongoing pelvic pain, pregnancy or even ectopic pregnancies)  but after 3 years, I’ve had no issues. I guess to each its own. But don’t get me wrong, having an Essure doesn’t stop me from getting the occasional “baby fever” especially well my emotions and hormones are all out of wack (menstruation)! 🙂

 

So why stop having children? I enjoyed each pregnancy and raising my children, but I feel it was time to actually enjoy the journey of motherhood by watching my children grow and remember each significant milestone. I can recall my children’s milestones, but to me, I feel as if I jipped my children one on one time with me because I was either pregnant or had a newborn…almost as if my children wasn’t allotted time to enjoy childhood. My children are still children, but if you’re a mom of “stair-steppers”, then you get what I’m saying!

I also feel that now, I have the opportunity to enjoy my husband. Now that my children are a little older, we (my husband and I) go on dates more frequently then ever before. I’m actually learning my husband outside of the “daddy role”.

I had time to revisit education and now is pursuing certification for teaching. I believe that my nurturing and encouraging children doesn’t have to be exclusive to my children, but I can help mold and cultivate other children as well…in a classroom setting. So beginning August 18th, I’ll be embarking on a new adventure…teaching! No, I don’t have my own classroom just yet, but I wanted my first year in education to be under an experienced teacher who loves children. I am so excited and to top that off, ALL FIVE OF MY CHILDREN… even the youngest will be in school full time!! *insert shout music*

Parenting does change you. FOR THE BETTER. I’m much more focused and goal oriented than ever before. I have always been a go-getter, but being a parent gives you that extra umph… that sense of urgency to teach and send out learners and leaders into this desperate land that’s in need of influence and hope… spiritually and educationally.

 

So, if you’re the mom who’s considering wrapping things up or even clipping 🙂 know that your purpose goes beyond your womb. Cultivate others, encourage other moms and train the children (biologically or not). You hold the seed, now it’s time to plant them and watch them grow!

Fireproof Your Marriage: The Love Dare (Days 21-40)
  • April 29, 2016

Sorry I’ve been M.I.A. but I have been recovering from some recent repairs….long story! Stay tuned for May 6th post!!!

Well, we have some catching up to do! Since my last post on the Love Dare challenge, hubby and I reconciled after a PMs explosion and are on good terms until next time! 🙂

So…. ahem…

 

Day 21: Love is satisfied in God

The Dare: Be intentional today about making a time to pray and read your Bible….as you do, immerse yourself in the love and promises God has for you.  This will add to your growth as you walk with Him.

 

Day 22: Love is faithful

The Dare: Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, “I love you.  Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.”

 

Day 23: Love always protects

The Dare: Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections or turning your heart away from your spouse.

 

Day 24: Love vs. lust

The Dare: End it now. Remove every object of lust in your life … it must be killed and destroyed – today – and replaced with the sure promise of God and a heart filled with his perfect love.

 

Day 25: Love forgives

The Dare: Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go… unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”

 

Day 26: Love is responsible

The Dare: Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, then humble yourself to admit them to your spouse.

 

Day 27: Love encourages

The Dare: Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it … promise them you’ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.

 

Day 28: Love makes sacrifices

The Dare: What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Purpose to do what you can to meet the need.

 

Day 29: Love’s motivation

The Dare: Before seeing your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you, say “I love you” then express love to them in some tangible way. Then thank God for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person unconditionally.

 

Day 30: Love brings unity

The Dare: Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that he will do the same for them.

 

Day 31: Love and marriage

The Dare: If there is an issue about the biblical command to “leave” your parents, confess it to your spouse and resolve to make it right. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage your priority over any other human relationship.

 

Day 32: Love meets sexual needs

The Dare: Initiate sex with your spouse today. Do it in a way that honors what your spouse needs from you. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you.

 

Day 33: Love completes each other

The Dare: Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today you desire them to be included in your upcoming decisions and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you’ve ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask for forgiveness.

 

Day 34: Love celebrates godliness

The Dare: Find a recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way, and verbally commend them for this.

 

Day 35: Love is accountable

The Dare: Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel counseling is needed, make the appointment.

 

Day 36: Love is God’s Word

The Dare: Commit to reading the Bible every day…If your spouse is willing, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

 

Day 37: Love agrees in prayer

The Dare: Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.

 

Day 38: Love fulfills dreams

The Dare: Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

 

Day 39: Love endures

The Dare: Spend some time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what.

 

Day 40: Love is a covenant

The Dare: Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. If appropriate, you can make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.

 

The last days of this challenge focused on intimacy, not only physically but spiritually as well. When you invite Jesus into your marriage, something miraculous happens…. You’ll find joy, peace and confidence in your relationship. Knowing God and His order will help you know just how much each other’s role is in the marriage. When you know your role, you can focus on your strengths and together can work out the fine details into making your Godly marriage work for you. God’s Word is the structure/foundation to a honorable marriage. Trust His Word and live it out daily and watch the Lord do the rest. God wants to use us to prove His Word when it says “what God joins together, let no man put usunder.”

Fireproof Your Marriage: The Love Dare (Days 13-20)
  • April 11, 2016

Back to our regularly schedule posts! Last week was my 30th birthday and I just had to share the 30 things I’ve learned…but this week I am back to the 40 day Love Dare Challenge!

This week, I will recap Days 13 through 20. Now I have to admit, my Crimson friend arrived and she had my emotions all over the place! My husband caught the backend to it and I have been apologizing to him since Saturday!! But, let’s see what we SHOULD have learned this past week!

 

Day 13: Love fights fair

The Dare: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement….resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

Obviously, Day 13 was a complete fail this week! I am learning to deal rationally while my Crimson friend is in town. I’ve been doing better but there is always room for improvement.

Day 14: Love takes delight

The Dare: Purposely neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they’d really like to work on. Just be together.

This is actually funny to me because after our little spat, I’ve been trying to become more delightful and graceful to my husband. I blame Eve!!

Day 15: Love is honorable

The Dare: Choose a way to honor and respect your spouse that is above your normal routine…show your spouse that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

A nice foot rub can put a smile on anyone’s face and doing so without your spouse asking is both surprising and honorable (especially after a fight!) Obviously, I’ve been rubbing feet all week!!

Day 16: Love intercedes

The Dare: Begin praying today for your spouse’s heart.

I pray for my husband daily..even multiple times a day. Working outside of the home can be stressful for your spouse so go before God for them, it means more than you think!

Day 17: Love promotes intimacy

The Dare: Determine to guard your mate’s secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or to you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.

Intimacy is way more than sex. Intimacy is how you guard your husband’s heart and emotions. I’ve learned that even though my husband can be thick-skinned, he longs to be heard and feel wanted. Intimacy begins with a positive morning (for you non-morning people) and throughout the day!

Day 18: Love seeks to understand

The Dare: Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice as you prefer. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you’ve rarely talked about. Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.

Everyday I learn something new about my husband. Whether we want to admit it, we change quite often. Our standards indeed remain the same, but we may go about it a different way. communicating these differences and emotions matters in a marriage. I’m still learning to include my husband in my deepest thoughts even if its not that deep to him or vice versa!

Day 19: Love is impossible

The Dare: Look back over the dares from previous days. Were there some that seemed impossible to you? Have you realized your need for God to change your heart and to give you the ability to love? Ask him to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.

 

Day 20: Love is Jesus Christ

The Dare: Dare to take God at his word. Dare to trust Jesus Christ for salvation. Dare to pray, “Lord Jesus, I am a sinner. But you have shown your love for me by dying to forgive my sins, and you have proven your power to save me from death by your resurrection. Lord, change my heart, and save me by your grace.”

 

Wow!! Day 20 gives us the opportunity to get it right…do our first works over. Learning the source and example of true intimacy and relationship gives us all a foundation in our marriage. Have you repented for your shortcomings? As Paul states, we must die daily!

 

Ok people!! 20 days remain in the challenge!! Let’s do this!!

 

It’s my 30th Birthday!!!
  • April 8, 2016

NO MORE TWENTIES!!!

I think may cry!! God has been so good to me and I am ready to see what amazing things He’ll do in the 30s!! I’ve learned so many things the past 30 years and I would like to list…

30 things I’ve learned in 30 years in good humor! ENJOY!!!

  1. God is Good… IN ALL THINGS!!!
  2. Family is important!
  3. People will use you!
  4. BOLDNESS!!!
  5. I still look like a high school student! And that’s ok! #blackdontcrack
  6.  God knew what He was doing when He gave me my husband.
  7. Friends are all about quality not quantity.
  8. Everyone is not your friend!
  9. Take care of yourself. Mentally and Physically!
  10. Love yourself!!
  11. I cannot eat dairy products and that’s ok!
  12. Ask for help!!
  13. It’s ok to take a nap! I deserve it!
  14. I make glasses trendy!
  15. Forgive others.
  16. Stay away from foolish/petty people.
  17. Admitting to myself that I am flawed, but that’s ok!
  18. Debt free is the way to be!
  19. Don’t compare yourself to others! Everyone’s struggle differ!
  20. I don’t have to wear 6 inch heels everyday to be cute!
  21. My milkmaid twists are super dope!!
  22. Follow your dreams
  23. Floods may come but the latter is always greater!
  24. Invest in yourself!
  25. Smile!!
  26. Laugh often!
  27. Date nights are essential!
  28. Everyday is a lesson learned!
  29. Speak Life!
  30. Learn something new!

 

I am so blessed to join the 30s club!! God has been so good thus far and I know He will show up and show out in my 30s!! So much learning and growing ahead and I can’t wait to enjoy the ride!!IMG_20160327_095354 20140802_134518 IMG_20160103_141939 IMG_20160303_114649

Fireproof Your Marriage: The Love Dare (Days 6-12)
  • April 1, 2016

We are into the next phase of the challenge? What did you learn this past week?!?!

 

Well, I’ve learned that men need encouragement and compliments as much as we do despite the fact that they’re men and won’t admit it!

Let’s look at days 6-12!

Day 6: Love is not irritable

The Dare: Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margins to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.

Now I know I’m not the only one who thinks they can be quite a bother. We (women) can be a bit petty when it comes to certain situations, but this challenge focuses on trying to tame it. How we react to things will make or break a conversation or even relationship. Choose wisely!

 

Day 7: Love believes the best

The Dare: On one sheet of paper, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on a second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day … at some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.

Choosing to speak and think positively is usually easier said than done. We have to be positive to gain positive results.

 

Day 8: Love is not jealous

The Dare: Determine to become your spouse’s biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.

For me, it is easy to become my husband’s biggest fan. I’ve realized the importance of support in marriage. Even if I don’t quite understand my husbands calling or hobby, I will support him to the fullest because I am confident that the Lord is leading him.

 

Day 9: Love makes good impressions

The Dare: Think of a specific way you’d like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.

Ummm…. I think you know how the normal wife will greet their husband…not need to go further!

 

Day 10: Love is unconditional

The Dare: Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse—something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else….demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.

Love is a verb! In what ways do you show your love? Mine will be baking my husband his favorite dessert!

 

Day 11: Love cherishes

The Dare: Choose a gesture that says, “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.

 

Day 12: Love lets others win

The Dare: Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.

You don’t always have to be right..just let go and love!!

 

Are you taking to challenge?!