“Is it really?”
“You don’t really mean that.”
“Why would you do such a thing?!”
“But, you’re such an awesome mother!”
“Did you talk to God about this?!?”
“The bible says to “Be fruitful and multiple…” “
Yes. It is definitely the end to that phase of my life and I’m perfectly okay with it. Everyone has their opinion about the decisionsÂ made and that’s okay! People will guilt you about your decision to stop having babies but you have to be confident in your decision.
My husband and I sought the Lord about the idea of not having any more children. I was almost afraid to make that request but I asked Him to bless my womb and give me as many babies as I can get.
(Back story) I come from a very large family and I know with all of the experienced I’ve gain, I knew I would be a great mother. God has blessed my womb even when I was told at the age of six that I would not conceive because I ate some of my mother’s birth control. Well, fast forward to 2012, we found out we were pregnant with our fifth child. We were excited as always but we knew we were coming to the end of our stage of having more children. It just felt right to end at baby #5. As with our other children, my husband waited for God to reveal our baby’s name. One morning, he woke me up and said “Rebekah”. So we began to search the meaning of the name and it means “Captivating; knotted cord”. When we saw the meaning, we knew God gave us the OK to let Rebekah be the last child of our little family. So, March 2013, 2 months after her birth, I knotted the cord… well Essured it.
What is Essure? How does it prevent pregnancies? The small Essure inserts are placed into your fallopian tubes by your doctor. These inserts work with your body to form a natural barrier that keeps sperm from reaching the eggs, preventing pregnancy. While the natural barrier forms over time, another form of birth control must be used.
I’ve heard mostly negative reviews about this form of contraceptive (ongoing pelvic pain, pregnancy or even ectopic pregnancies) Â but after 3 years, I’ve had no issues. I guess to each its own. But don’t get me wrong, having an Essure doesn’t stop me from getting the occasional “baby fever” especially well my emotions and hormones are all out of wack (menstruation)! 🙂
So why stop having children? I enjoyed each pregnancy and raising my children, but I feel it was time to actually enjoy the journey of motherhood by watching my children grow and remember each significant milestone. I can recall my children’s milestones, but to me, I feel as if I jipped my children one on one time with me because I was either pregnant or had a newborn…almost as if my children wasn’t allotted time to enjoy childhood. My children are still children, but if you’re a mom of “stair-steppers”, then you get what I’m saying!
I also feel that now, I have the opportunity to enjoy my husband. Now that my children are a little older, we (my husband and I) go on dates more frequently then ever before. I’m actually learning my husband outside of the “daddy role”.
I had time to revisit education and now is pursuing certification for teaching. I believe that my nurturing and encouraging children doesn’t have to be exclusive to my children, but I can help mold and cultivate other children as well…in a classroom setting. So beginning August 18th, I’ll be embarking on a new adventure…teaching! No, I don’t have my own classroom just yet, but I wanted my first year in education to be under an experienced teacher who loves children. I am so excited and to top that off, ALL FIVE OF MY CHILDREN… even the youngest will be in school full time!! *insert shout music*
Parenting does change you. FOR THE BETTER. I’m much more focused and goal oriented than ever before. I have always been a go-getter, but being a parent gives you that extra umph… that sense of urgency to teach and send out learners and leaders into this desperate land that’s in need of influence and hope… spiritually and educationally.
So, if you’re the mom who’s considering wrapping things up or even clipping 🙂 know that your purpose goes beyond your womb. Cultivate others, encourage other moms and train the children (biologically or not). You hold the seed, now it’s time to plant them and watch them grow!
Forgiveness can be a very difficult thing. In most recent times in my life, I have experienced acts of forgiveness that has convicted me. My oldest daughter, Raymiah was picked on for weeks on the school bus. Every other day, she would express her anger and frustration about the little girl who has been bothering her. The last confrontation resulted in Raymiah being suspended from riding the school bus. We had enough, so my husband drove Raymiah to the little girl’s house and talked with her parents. They explained theirÂ exasperation saying they have transferred their daughter 3 times already because she continues to pick on other children. As the adults form a solution, Raymiah and the girl talked and became friends. My husband was shocked! Raymiah said that she told her about Jesus and that she can know Him. The girl then expressed interestÂ and they have been friends ever since! All the girl wanted was a friend!
This incident has taught me so much about forgiveness and second chance. Many people who you think may be out to cause you harm may be in a state of desperation and friendship. We must put our feelings aside and show there is always a better way… JESUS!! Raymiah, in her loving child-like ways led the girl to Christ and had forgiven her. The same girl who called her insulted her and made her cry was forgiven and became a friend. Daniel 9:9 says, “The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him;”. God in all His mercifulness can forgive us despite our insults and shame,so we have that same ability to forgive others.
The heart of a child is so simple and pure and I pray daily, that God mold me in that same manner.