Jesus answered, “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’
Now we are in full swing of the new year, we tend to make empty promises or deliver ill-intention resolutions. We say we will do more in our community, read more books in a month and so much more. In this season in my life, I’m in a place in my life that a new year shouldn’t dictate how I live in it. Living your life with a purpose every day, every year should be everyone’s life goals. It’s easy to be complacent, but this season, I’m making my study time more intentional.
A few weeks ago, I was listening to a podcast by John Piper entitled, How Do I Make the Most of Daily Bible Reading and I was left encouraged. There are days when I feel unmotivated and life tends to get the best of me. I know there are reassurances in the Word of God, but I am usually stomped to find a passage of scripture to study or meditate on. With all the journals and devotionals I’ve been gifted or downloaded over the past few years has been used and I know is a great way to begin a study, but I’ve been in the search of something deeper. While listening to the podcast, John Piper mentioned this Discipleship Journal Bible Reading Plan so I signed up for a free download.
So this is a 25-day reading plan. Normally, you have a 30-day reading plan or devotional. This 25-day plan is for those of us who miss a day and try to make up days. So you have 5-6 days to make up if needed without feeling as if you didn’t commit to completing the month. The days are scheduled to following a particular test with backup scriptures for complete understanding and revelation. I know for me, with other plans, I would read a passage of scripture and would finish my study time with questions. I am confident in my study and journal time with this plan.
I plan to follow-up at the end of February to update you. If you’re looking to take your personal Bible study to a new level, join me! I am excited to see what God says this year!
Sorry I’ve been M.I.A. but I have been recovering from some recent repairs….long story! Stay tuned for May 6th post!!!
Well, we have some catching up to do! Since my last post on the Love Dare challenge, hubby and I reconciled after a PMs explosion and are on good terms until next time! 🙂
Day 21: Love is satisfied in God
The Dare: Be intentional today about making a time to pray and read your Bibleâ€¦.as you do, immerse yourself in the love and promises God has for you.Â This will add to your growth as you walk with Him.
Day 22: Love is faithful
The Dare: Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, â€œI love you.Â Period. I choose to love you even if you donâ€™t love me in return.â€
Day 23: Love always protects
The Dare: Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence thatâ€™s stealing your affections or turning your heart away from your spouse.
Day 24: Love vs. lust
The Dare: End it now. Remove every object of lust in your life â€¦ it must be killed and destroyed â€“ today â€“ and replaced with the sure promise of God and a heart filled with his perfect love.
Day 25: Love forgives
The Dare: Whatever you havenâ€™t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it goâ€¦ unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, â€œI choose to forgive.â€
Day 26: Love is responsible
The Dare: Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for Godâ€™s forgiveness, then humble yourself to admit them to your spouse.
Day 27: Love encourages
The Dare: Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you youâ€™re expecting too much, and tell them youâ€™re sorry for being so hard on them about it â€¦ promise them youâ€™ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.
Day 28: Love makes sacrifices
The Dare: What is one of the greatest needs in your spouseâ€™s life right now? Purpose to do what you can to meet the need.
Day 29: Loveâ€™s motivation
The Dare: Before seeing your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs.Â Whether it comes easy for you, say â€œI love youâ€ then express love to them in some tangible way. Then thank God for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person unconditionally.
Day 30: Love brings unity
The Dare: Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse.Â Pray that he will do the same for them.
Day 31: Love and marriage
The Dare: If there is an issue about the biblical command to â€œleaveâ€ your parents, confess it to your spouse and resolve to make it right. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage your priority over any other human relationship.
Day 32: Love meets sexual needs
The Dare: Initiate sex with your spouse today.Â Do it in a way that honors what your spouse needs from you.Â Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you.
Day 33: Love completes each other
The Dare: Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today you desire them to be included in your upcoming decisions and that you need their perspective and counsel. If youâ€™ve ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask for forgiveness.
Day 34: Love celebrates godliness
The Dare: Find a recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way, and verbally commend them for this.
Day 35: Love is accountable
The Dare: Find a marriage mentorâ€”someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel counseling is needed, make the appointment.
Day 36: Love is Godâ€™s Word
The Dare: Commit to reading the Bible every dayâ€¦If your spouse is willing, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.
Day 37: Love agrees in prayer
The Dare: Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.
Day 38: Love fulfills dreams
The Dare: Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.
Day 39: Love endures
The Dare: Spend some time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what.
Day 40: Love is a covenant
The Dare: Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. If appropriate, you can make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in Godâ€™s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.
The last days of this challenge focused on intimacy, not only physically but spiritually as well. When you invite Jesus into your marriage, something miraculous happens…. You’ll find joy, peace and confidence in your relationship. Knowing God and His order will help you know just how much each other’s role is in the marriage. When you know your role, you can focus on your strengths and together can work out the fine details into making your Godly marriage work for you. God’s Word is the structure/foundation to a honorable marriage. Trust His Word and live it out daily and watch the Lord do the rest. God wants to use us to prove His Word when it says “what God joins together, let no man put usunder.”
Well, looks like the church is riding the fence on this one! Before I share my thoughts about this subject, I will begin withÂ thisÂ questionÂ from Megan Good that was posted on her Instagram account….
“Why would anyone ever want to be a Christian when you see how they treat each other?â€
On a promotional tour of the couples’ new book on abstinence before marriage called “The Wait” on Valentine’s Day, a woman who was apart of the audience had a “question” during the Q & A portion of the meet. This was her comment:
â€œThis is not offensive, but I was at the grocery store and I looked at a newsstand and I saw you, and you had your breast showing,â€ one woman in the audience said.Â â€œSo, so, I wasnâ€™t gonna come here, I wasnâ€™t, but the Lord brought me here to see you. Youâ€™re beautiful. You are a beautiful young woman, and your testimony is awesome. Itâ€™s awesome. Amen. Amen! And the Lord let me come and push past the judgment … because you have to make sure what you say and what you do match up, you understand?Â So we gonna cover up, right?â€
I’m pretty sure everyone’s jaw dropped to hear this, including Meagan Good. Her husband came to her defense as any husband who love their wife would do…but he lost me at “She can wear whatever she want in the Name of Jesus!” Ummm, sir…. Tis not true! The bible speaks clearly about modesty.
â€œI desireâ€¦that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godlinessâ€”with good works.â€œ 1 Timothy 2:8-10
While what you wear can speak volumes about you, it can easily be mistaken as well…modesty, I believe, is the state of one’s heart. Perfect example… A young lady comes to church with skin tight clothes and breasts exposed. What is your first thought? Perhaps she’s a prostitute. Maybe, but she came to the church! The church isn’t for perfect people..AND the church isn’t a fashion show. The church is for the lost to be found…the church is for conviction and comfort… if you are apart of the Body of Christ, then you too are the church. In my honest opinion (there wouldn’t be no other way), I believe the audience member was out of line. No way was it acceptable to start off your comment about someone with “This is not offensive”… you shut their ears at the first sentence! God is not out of order and that was completely out of order. I know Meagan Good is human and she professes Christ and by the looks of it (or that was her acting skills at work LOL), but I truly believe she is struggling with the topic anyway. It’s us typical church folk who is quick to judge. No one knows the heart of the person or what they’re truly going through unless you are transparent. But how do you reach someone like Meagan Good? Honestly, I don’t know, but God has people assigned to certain people. The statement the audience member made was quite distasteful especially because she threw God in the mix. GOD IS ALL ABOUT ORDER.Â But check this out…. look at what Good as on during this engagement and every other church engagement they attend… she’s fully clothed. She knows enough not to wear what she would wear on the Red Carpet or Movie Premieres to the church. Maybe if she had everything out, maybe something should have been said.
Well, back to her husband (Devon Franklin). In every way, he was right to defend his wife and I believe he spoke out of anger. There’s no way he can fix his mouth to believe that his wife can dress how she want IN THE NAME OF JESUS…but in the culture we live in, it just might be okay in his eyes. Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with dressing up for your husband, but there is a place for that as my BFF in my head (Ayesha Curry) stated before.
But in defense to all who is struggling in the heart, God sees you. I was once ridiculed because of what I wore to church. By no means was I revealing, but the color I decided to wear was too much for the saints. I came to church with a red skirt that was pleated in the back…SO FREAKING CUTE…but IT WAS RED! Since when the color red was ungodly? I was highly offended, but because I was secured in my relationship with Jesus, I didn’t let it bother me…but who is to say it won’t bother the next girl who wears red? Or cleavage is revealed? She may turn away from God, never to experience the love He has for her because a “Saint” got to her first.
We must examine our motives and think before we speak… Christian or not!
So in closing… LOL… Modesty is not about your clothes only, but about your attitude and behavior. You can be fully dressed, head to pinky toe and be jacked up!
Modesty is about who you worship. Wow!! Deep right?!?! The God we serve is about us reflecting him, being an example… holiness..fruit bearers, seed sowers…being holy in your communication and entertainment.
Modesty is true freedom. Culture sees it as opposite, but when you truly think about it, the world is wrapped around the idea of freedom as self-love and expression as in our body is art, explore it, show it off. True freedom is being sober minded and respectable and not being a sexual nuisance or a slave to sin.
The next time you see a young girl in whom you discern is dealing with matters of the heart, talk to her. Don’t be so quick to condemn her…everyone needs the love of God.Â Conviction will always cause change, but when you put yourself in it, you’ll take the love and discipline away from the only One who brings change.
All you have to do is be the willing to put your thoughts and opinion of others aside, God will definitely do the rest.
A word I thought Â I would have never said a few years ago. Yes, I am married with a handful of babies, but you wouldn’t catch me in any such conversation. But, now is a different story! I grew up where no one talked about it, but EVERYONE did “IT”. My eyes have also see things that scarred me, but that is only because it wasn’t shown any respect or class. I am talking about sex. God created sex ONLY for one man and his wife to enjoy and to create. But why are CHRISTIANS so afraid to speak up about it?! Sex was created for married Christians! The world is unafraid and bold when it comes to sexuality, but the people whom sex was created for is silent and embarrassed. Well, not anymore!!
I was 19 years old when I got married and up until recently, I was afraid to engage into conversation about sex, even with my own husband! Sad, I know! There are a lot of people who are stepping into marriage blindly because someone was too embarrassed to be real with them. SEX IS NOT A BAD WORD!! Sex is a very spiritual and submissive act between husband and wife that has been abused by the world AND ignored by the church!
In marriage, sex is for creating but it is also for pleasure. Sex should not be a chore….it should be something you enjoy intimately with you husband or wife. BUT do not expect it to be your only form of expression for your spouse. Have date nights, text each other or write notes! Yes, people still do that…I still do that!… Surprise visits at the job. These small tokens help to enhance your marriage. Intimacy does not begin in the bedroom. Intimacy is a relationship. You can’t KNOW your husband or wife unless you know them. Same with Jesus; He is longing to spend time with you and to know you. You can’t know Him without a relationship!
Speaking of the bible, have you ever sat down and read/listen Song of Solomon? Oh my my!!! Talking about deep! Give it a go! Now i will not give you my interpretation of the book, but I will express ways to create sparks in your relationship with your husband or wife in the next post to this series!
Yes! Surprised? Well don’t be. Many of you feel the exact same way.
Recently, I discovered that my biggest influence, my online pastor, my role model, Pastor Bob Coy of Calvary Chapel in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida had resigned April 3, 2014 as Head Pastor for “moral failure”….simply put, for admitting adultery and porn addiction. I was and still is in disbelief of the news. All I wanted to do is hear a Word as I have in the past from him on his Activeword.org website to find all of his materials and archivesÂ gone. I am absolutely disappointed and am hurt to know that the person whom I received “counseling” from all these years, has committed the sin he speaks against all the time! Yes, he is only a man, but if you could only hear his passion (what now may have been a cry for help) about marriage saying, “our marriages and ministries are under attack” “guard your relationships” “don’t take family for granted”. He wasn’t your typical Megachurch Pastor who only told people what they want to hear; he spoke Bible! Pastor Coy backed up EVERYTHING with scripture and I supported him. Now why am I sick of the church? Well, that’s simple!
For years, the church has becomeÂ an all you can eat buffet; a place where people come to stuff there faces with food with no limit. They are becoming sick because of the mess they consume and choose to indulge in. It is no longer a hospital for the sick and lame, but it has become the place where sinful people come to be reassured about their situation and not change a thing because the Grace of God will rescue them each and every time!
Pastors are living “secret lives”, their messages are no longer life-changing but more of a “Wa“. People are leaving millions of churches empty. The creation usually represents the creator, so if the pastor is living an empty life, he can only pour into people what he has inside of him.
No one talks about sin, because everyone is covering up theirs. Pastors being excused of adultery, pornography, theft, and an array of things. Usually, when their sin is brought to light, they are “praised” and encouraged saying the devil won’t steal our joy.Ha! Your pastor just got caught up Â WITH EVIDENCE and you’re defending him? While pastors like Bob Coy confess because the Holy Spirit is yet working on him and is convicting him so he confesses and people are calling him a “false teacher”? It bothers me! If anything he is forgiven.
Th church has become lukewarm in everything and even questioning the bible they are suppose to live by for the sake of comfort and numbers. I feel as if I don’t want to be apart of that group of people everyone is talking about. My standard is the bible! The bible is my road to life everlasting and my light will be seen, but it feels like if I am with a bunch of watered down Christians, that I will be looked at as the same. I know that out of all the madness the church is allowing, there are a FEW in the church who remains and will stand on the Word of God, who will not give in to the culture that the church is allowing to influence them. Every person I come in contact to will know and SEE the difference.
I have never felt this type of sympathy for the church like I do now. I am on a mission and God will get the glory out of every aspect of my life!
Be the difference, even in the church. Timeout for playing church! Souls need deliverance and conviction!
What is the most popular thing on television? You guessed it! SCANDAL!!
It all over the popular social networks and the talk of the town! I hear people rooting for this “Olivia Pope” and how her relationship to the President is unbreakable and real. One thing that has me highly offended and bothered is that “Mr. President” is married. What happened to the blessings and favor of marriage? Today’s society has no respect for it and sad to say is that we (Christians) are allowing such damaging content to enter into our homes. The bible clearly states, “Â Learn not the way of the heathen, and be not dismayed at the signs of heaven; for the heathen are dismayed at them.” (Jeremiah 10:2) The bible also declares, “No man can enter into a strong man’s house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.” (Mark 3:27)
So why are we so intrigued over lust and infidelity? What are we trying to figure out? Honestly, I tried to see what the fuss was about. I went on Netflix and saw the first episode of the first season and I could not stomach it! Television has motives now. .There is no such thing as wholesome entertainment. Marriage is under attack.
I am a woman and if you know me, you’ll know that I take my role as a wife and mother very seriously. Some may be offended by this but hey!! Women… saved women…whether you’re married or single: YOU ARE TO BLAME! We allowed shows like “Scandal” to play throughout our homes and wonder why you can’t have a committed relationship or a faithful marriage because you are basically expecting your husband or future husband to do what “Mr. President” did to his wife. You want the relationship that he has with Olivia which will send you BOTH to Hell!! Marriage is honorable and to disrespect this sacred covenant and GOD makes me question your “Fruit”. Â We are glued to this foolishness! Let me ask you this? Where’s your husbands when you watch this show? And if he’s sitting next to you with a bag of popcorn…smh!
Nothing will come in and dilute my home and marriage. It’s crazy because the same people who will change the channel when that disrespectful little boy, “Caillou” comes on because he will have a negative influence on your child is the same one who watches this show. That is so hypocritical!
Tell me what you think?