Yes! You’ve read it correctly! We indeed enrolled our children ( 3 of them) into a brick and mortar public school. After nearly 3 years of home education, we decided to go a different route. Teacher burn out is real so imagine being both the parent and teacher? It became overwhelming and none of us were happy about it. I was stressed, I was tired, I was annoyed. It took months for me to decide what to do and what will be best for my children. I wanted to try an online curriculum but the risk of it not working for my children wasn’t worth it on our pockets. My husband then suggested putting them into the school district. I felt defeated. I felt discouraged. Am I not enough for my children? Am I no longer needed? These questions threatened me for months. Even after deciding to re-enroll them I felt like I had lost. I already had to deal with the questions about my children’s social life, now this!? How will I tell people I no longer teach my children? So I didn’t. Only a handful of people (that’s including family) knew about our decision to re-enroll them in public school.
So, in February 2019, I took 3 of my children to our district’s schools and re-enrolled them. I know you may wonder why 3 and not all 5.? Let’s backtrack…
October 2015, I’ve had enough of the public school system. The unnecessary conferences and calls. The car lines and bus rides. The inconvenience of the school day period! It started with my youngest. I enrolled her into a pre-k program while I taught at a school. She was only 3 at the time. I rushed her into an environment that was waiting for her to fail. She wasn’t ready for school. She couldn’t defend herself. She was labeled even though she was the brightest student in the class. What was mistaken for rebellion was fear. My then 3-year-old was terrified of her teacher. To this day, my daughter complains about the teacher. She’s 6 now, but children don’t forget their feelings toward people and yes they are very forgiving but they don’t forget. She was withdrawn from the program and I resigned from teaching to teaching her at home. A few months later, issues arise with my son and my oldest daughter. “They are bored”, said their teachers. My children were outgrowing the school. They were no longer challenged and motivated. Their grades dropped. Their attitudes toward the teachers grew. All of the calls home and notes sent, I had enough! My other two daughters were thriving but weren’t challenged enough. I took my children out and transferred my second oldest in K12. K12 provided the challenges she needed and she has been thriving ever since. The other children couldn’t qualify right away so I began to create my own curriculum. So for the next 3 years, that’s what I did. I created curriculums based on their strengths and weaknesses. It was a lot of work and I have a ton of grey hairs to show for it.
Fast forward to February 2019, 3 of my children began their brick and mortar school experience. Enrolling my 2nd and 3rd grader was easy for the most part because everyone knew us and I left with a great working relationship with the staff of their school. They were happy to have them back. I enrolled them in time to partake in State testing. My son was enrolled in his rightful grade, 3rd grade. He hated it so much because at home he was working on 4th-grade material. I encouraged him enough to where he was confident to stick it out and happened to end the school year with amazing grades! My daughter who enrolled as a 2nd grader thrived. She shared a class with many of her dance friends. My oldest, who enrolled as a 7th grader did well and didn’t complain much about the schoolwork because she was well acquainted with many of the subjects because of what I taught her at home. I was left encouraged. I felt accomplished. While they were at school, my second oldest and youngest were at home with me. Traveling back and forth to the schools was stressful and I didn’t miss that at all. I was so ready for the school year to end and they were only there for a few weeks 🙂
Testing came and gone and the school year was complete. We transferred our children out of the traditional brick and mortar schools and enrolled them all (except the youngest) in K12. Today, we have 4 of 5 of our children in an online school. We are all still adjusting to this new way of learning, but I am so happy to have my children back at home.
So how did my children enjoy public school those few months? Hear it from their words:
R1: Public school was really fun! I miss all my friends there. And they all miss me, says my Bff next door. I learned a lot. Now that I’m back at home, my fam really annoys me sometimes. Learning with K12 is difficult and hard to understand, but I am getting better.”
R3: ” Being at home with the girls again sucks but at school, the teachers were mean and unhappy all of the time. But now, I can do all of my work at once and be done for the rest of the day.”
R4: “I miss my friends but I see them at dance class. I am happy to be home and do all of my work fast. Plus the food is better at home.”
Now, I can honestly say, when my kids were at school, my refrigerator took a break. But the food was still gone fast because, after school, they were hungry. 🙂
Today, we are wrapping up our school day. They all had their lunch and with today being the day before grocery shopping, food is low so I had to get creative! :)But K12 has made my life easier now that I don’t have to worry about a curriculum and most importantly my children’s safety and innocence. As their learning coach, I am involved in their education and have access to the teachers all week long. I am blessed to have K12 in my home because I can have my children with me. We can travel whenever we want and not have to worry about attendance because schooling can be done on the road! School supplies and materials are provided and all I have to do is store everything. K12 is a wonderful option for me and I am grateful that because I did enroll my children earlier this year; because of that decision, we were able to qualify for K12. So now, I have 4 of 5 children enrolled at a K12 school. My youngest is still too young, but soon she will join them!
I take this experience as a lesson learned. Life can through curveballs and leave you discouraged, but trust the process and process have its time. Everything that was meant to be will be.
In the middle of yet another EXCRUCIATING, frustrating, exhausting conversation with my almost 20-year old daughter, I realized we just donâ€™t understand each other. We are not communicating, weâ€™re just talking. And worse, she has no idea what Iâ€™m talking about and thinks I have no idea what Iâ€™m talking about! She doesnâ€™t even care to listen to me. I never want to say â€œIâ€™m 46 and Iâ€™m right.â€ But the fact is, Iâ€™M 46 AND Iâ€™M RIGHT! Iâ€™ve been there done that and failed miserably at it. When I looked at her all I saw was myself at 20 making all the wrong moves, having the wrong attitude and not thinking like someone on the path to being a productive adult. So, I began to think how much better off I would be if I knew then what I know now and what things I would want my 20 year old self (and my almost 20 year old daughter) to know.
What I would tell my 20 year old self:
1. Listen more, talk less.
2. It’s ok to be wrong about something.
3. Be good to yourself.
4. Save/spend your money carefully. Don’t try to keep up with the Jones’…the Jones’ are in debt.
5. Take responsibility for your bad behavior (choices, decisions, actions, etc.)
6. Forgive…..yourself and others.
7. Know your worth and walk in it. Don’t settle.
8. Dream big. But wake up, get up and actually DO SOMETHING to make your dreams happen. No excuses, just results.
9. There’s a big difference between taking a “leap of faith” and “taking a flying leap”. Choose wisely.
10. Think. Then react.
11. It’s OK to ask for help. But remember to show gratitude not attitude. YOU need the help.
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