My husband and I celebrated our 6th year wedding anniversary, September 10. I am so blessed to see and enjoy the day with him. Our lives have been quite hectic and unexpected these past months and I know that with him being in a leadership position caring for a family of 6 now. I have learned the importance of lifting my husband in prayer. He has to deal with so many temptations and stresses that I can only imagine putting up with.
When I took his name, I took on the responsible of being his help meet (Genesis 2:18). With him being in the construction field at the time, he was in the middle of back-biting and inconsiderate contractors and businessmen. His refuge from all the drama was home. I realized that I set the tone to the house and that our home was definitely a safe haven for us all. I thank God for His Word, because that was all I had for inspiration, encouragement, and example. So, I found the scripture Proverbs 14:1 â€œEvery wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.â€ I was in complete shock when I read this scripture because not only do I set the atmosphere of our home, but I have the ability to tear it down. It is a harsh reality and it is easy to ruin a good thing. So, with care, I watched what came out of my mouth and always encouraged my husband even if I felt as if he was misused and harmed. My prayer was for him to be secure in the work that he does and to be humble when the enemy tries his patience. I encourage him not to give up and that his work will never be in vain. I may feel otherwise, but with the words I speak to him, I encourage myself with it. In the scriptures, there are examples of women who brought their house down with their influences.
Example: Eve- Genesis 3:6 â€œ And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to thee eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.â€
I made a vow to God, to my husband, and to myself that I will continue to encourage and positively influence my husband to make sound decisions and to work diligently even if those around him are doing otherwise. Since we got out of the construction field in one piece, he faces new challenges, I remain the same encouragement even though it may look rough and unbearable, we can depend on God and the reassurance His word brings us to make it through.
Iâ€™ve seen what affects wives have on their husbands. It is an awful thing to see how a woman can literally tear her family apart by her actions. If youâ€™re married or have the dream of being married, please be careful with your words and be a help to your husbands and not a hindrance!