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Fireproof Your Marriage: The Love Dare (Days 21-40)
  • April 29, 2016

Sorry I’ve been M.I.A. but I have been recovering from some recent repairs….long story! Stay tuned for May 6th post!!!

Well, we have some catching up to do! Since my last post on the Love Dare challenge, hubby and I reconciled after a PMs explosion and are on good terms until next time! 🙂

So…. ahem…

 

Day 21: Love is satisfied in God

The Dare: Be intentional today about making a time to pray and read your Bible….as you do, immerse yourself in the love and promises God has for you.  This will add to your growth as you walk with Him.

 

Day 22: Love is faithful

The Dare: Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, “I love you.  Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.”

 

Day 23: Love always protects

The Dare: Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, any addiction or influence that’s stealing your affections or turning your heart away from your spouse.

 

Day 24: Love vs. lust

The Dare: End it now. Remove every object of lust in your life … it must be killed and destroyed – today – and replaced with the sure promise of God and a heart filled with his perfect love.

 

Day 25: Love forgives

The Dare: Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go… unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”

 

Day 26: Love is responsible

The Dare: Take time to pray through your areas of wrongdoing. Ask for God’s forgiveness, then humble yourself to admit them to your spouse.

 

Day 27: Love encourages

The Dare: Eliminate the poison of unrealistic expectations in your home. Think of one area where your spouse has told you you’re expecting too much, and tell them you’re sorry for being so hard on them about it … promise them you’ll seek to understand, and assure them of your unconditional love.

 

Day 28: Love makes sacrifices

The Dare: What is one of the greatest needs in your spouse’s life right now? Purpose to do what you can to meet the need.

 

Day 29: Love’s motivation

The Dare: Before seeing your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs. Whether it comes easy for you, say “I love you” then express love to them in some tangible way. Then thank God for giving you the privilege of loving this one special person unconditionally.

 

Day 30: Love brings unity

The Dare: Isolate one area of division in your marriage, and look on today as a fresh opportunity to pray about it. Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse. Pray that he will do the same for them.

 

Day 31: Love and marriage

The Dare: If there is an issue about the biblical command to “leave” your parents, confess it to your spouse and resolve to make it right. Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage your priority over any other human relationship.

 

Day 32: Love meets sexual needs

The Dare: Initiate sex with your spouse today. Do it in a way that honors what your spouse needs from you. Ask God to make this enjoyable for both of you.

 

Day 33: Love completes each other

The Dare: Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today you desire them to be included in your upcoming decisions and that you need their perspective and counsel. If you’ve ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask for forgiveness.

 

Day 34: Love celebrates godliness

The Dare: Find a recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way, and verbally commend them for this.

 

Day 35: Love is accountable

The Dare: Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel counseling is needed, make the appointment.

 

Day 36: Love is God’s Word

The Dare: Commit to reading the Bible every day…If your spouse is willing, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

 

Day 37: Love agrees in prayer

The Dare: Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.

 

Day 38: Love fulfills dreams

The Dare: Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

 

Day 39: Love endures

The Dare: Spend some time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love them no matter what.

 

Day 40: Love is a covenant

The Dare: Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. If appropriate, you can make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your mate.

 

The last days of this challenge focused on intimacy, not only physically but spiritually as well. When you invite Jesus into your marriage, something miraculous happens…. You’ll find joy, peace and confidence in your relationship. Knowing God and His order will help you know just how much each other’s role is in the marriage. When you know your role, you can focus on your strengths and together can work out the fine details into making your Godly marriage work for you. God’s Word is the structure/foundation to a honorable marriage. Trust His Word and live it out daily and watch the Lord do the rest. God wants to use us to prove His Word when it says “what God joins together, let no man put usunder.”

It’s my 30th Birthday!!!
  • April 8, 2016

NO MORE TWENTIES!!!

I think may cry!! God has been so good to me and I am ready to see what amazing things He’ll do in the 30s!! I’ve learned so many things the past 30 years and I would like to list…

30 things I’ve learned in 30 years in good humor! ENJOY!!!

  1. God is Good… IN ALL THINGS!!!
  2. Family is important!
  3. People will use you!
  4. BOLDNESS!!!
  5. I still look like a high school student! And that’s ok! #blackdontcrack
  6.  God knew what He was doing when He gave me my husband.
  7. Friends are all about quality not quantity.
  8. Everyone is not your friend!
  9. Take care of yourself. Mentally and Physically!
  10. Love yourself!!
  11. I cannot eat dairy products and that’s ok!
  12. Ask for help!!
  13. It’s ok to take a nap! I deserve it!
  14. I make glasses trendy!
  15. Forgive others.
  16. Stay away from foolish/petty people.
  17. Admitting to myself that I am flawed, but that’s ok!
  18. Debt free is the way to be!
  19. Don’t compare yourself to others! Everyone’s struggle differ!
  20. I don’t have to wear 6 inch heels everyday to be cute!
  21. My milkmaid twists are super dope!!
  22. Follow your dreams
  23. Floods may come but the latter is always greater!
  24. Invest in yourself!
  25. Smile!!
  26. Laugh often!
  27. Date nights are essential!
  28. Everyday is a lesson learned!
  29. Speak Life!
  30. Learn something new!

 

I am so blessed to join the 30s club!! God has been so good thus far and I know He will show up and show out in my 30s!! So much learning and growing ahead and I can’t wait to enjoy the ride!!IMG_20160327_095354 20140802_134518 IMG_20160103_141939 IMG_20160303_114649

Promises Fulfilled: Introduction to City Girl, Country Living
  • January 18, 2016

Ever received a word from the Lord and He sweeps you off your feet in the direction of the promises He’s promised to you? Then suddenly, you seem to be steered off track to find out it was all apart of His plan?

Well, I can testify that we are and were faced with plenty of detours our entire time here in Texas. If you are new to my blog, I suggest you hold your place here and begin reading my entries entitled, “Thankful Thursday: Journey to Texas”… well, in review February 2016 will mark our 5th year here in Texas. We’ve had some challenges, but we also had many successes… (2) evictions, pregnancies and farm animals! Being a city girl from Chicago, I believe I was prepared for the unexpected and the hustle of it all, so I was bred with tough skin! LOL

April of 2014, we closed on 2 acres of land that was in horrible condition; if you look at the before pictures, you would have thought we were crazy..well, jokes on you, because…… WE ARE!! lol We cleared the property off, killed a few snakes and chainsaw a few trees and placed our mobile home on the property within a month’s time!! Fast forward to October 2015, we have a healthy flock of free-ranged hens, two goats, a pig and a donkey! Yep, Chicago born and raised turned to dirt slinging, egg catching farmers! We were living our life’s dream!! Well, October 31 came around and we were alerted of a nearby tornado, so I woke up my family (including a very tired and angry husband) and we left! Well, half a day went by and we went to check on the house! We GLORY TO GOD, it’s still in tact, but…huh?!?! We’re completely flooded out! My husband literally swam to the house to grab clothes and feed the visible animals. IMG_2832

Once the waters receeded, we returned to find only 4 of our chickens alive and dead goat and our pig with 5 piglets!! LOL God surely has a sense of humor, because even in our loss, we somehow manage to experience gain in the midst! Seeing our pig with her babies shown me that even though it may look bad around me, God still provides and will keep our heads above the waters He sent to us. What an amazing reassurance!

God, sent the floods not only to restore my faith, but He revealed that He still will fulfill His promise to us! I’ve also learned that trials have purpose.  We are still in clean up mode even 3 months after the flood, but God has been restoring since day one. God cannot lie, so seeing Him continue to work in the midst of is so encouraging. His word says, For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord,” plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” -Jeremiah 29:11

Knowing that His plans will continue and that the detours were apart of His plan as well…NOTHING SURPRISES HIM! He’s all knowing!

 

I hope this is encouraging to you as it has been for my family! He’s good y’all IN ALL THINGS!!

 

 

 

**stay tuned for our life as homesteaders the past few months and things to come in the future!**

Heart of a Child
  • March 30, 2015

Forgiveness can be a very difficult thing. In most recent times in my life, I have experienced acts of forgiveness that has convicted me. My oldest daughter, Raymiah was picked on for weeks on the school bus. Every other day, she would express her anger and frustration about the little girl who has been bothering her. The last confrontation resulted in Raymiah being suspended from riding the school bus. We had enough, so my husband drove Raymiah to the little girl’s house and talked with her parents. They explained their exasperation saying they have transferred their daughter 3 times already because she continues to pick on other children. As the adults form a solution, Raymiah and the girl talked and became friends. My husband was shocked! Raymiah said that she told her about Jesus and that she can know Him. The girl then expressed interest and they have been friends ever since! All the girl wanted was a friend!

 

This incident has taught me so much about forgiveness and second chance. Many people who you think may be out to cause you harm may be in a state of desperation and friendship. We must put our feelings aside and show there is always a better way… JESUS!! Raymiah, in her loving child-like ways led the girl to Christ and had forgiven her. The same girl who called her insulted her and made her cry was forgiven and became a friend. Daniel 9:9 says, “The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him;”. God in all His mercifulness can forgive us despite our insults and shame,so we have that same ability to forgive others.

The heart of a child is so simple and pure and I pray daily, that God mold me in that same manner.