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Hygiene Health… One Reusable Product at a Time!
  • January 15, 2019

I have been sitting on this information for over a year now and I truly believe now it the time to share my thoughts! It is not common for Black women to speak of feminine care in a descriptive matter and I want to be the one to break the silence. Growing up, talking about feminine hygiene was taboo. Thankfully, with all the talk and research of reproductive issues and health issues, I can educate my daughters and little sisters about the importance of asking questions about what’s going on with their bodies because for me at their age, I didn’t have a clue! I want to be able to speak freely of the importance of what we use for that time of the month and ways we can improve our overall health and hygiene.

Since the age of 14, I’ve had all sorts of experiences and incidents revolving around my menstrual cycle: heavy flows, sporadic cycles, severe cramping and migraines and much more! When I got married at 19 and shortly after became pregnant, my periods were pretty much non-existent! Nursing and shortly after a year, I’m pregnant again and again and again and honestly, I enjoyed not having a period for nearly 7 years!! But in recent years, after my last nursing phase, my periods returned with migraines and even infections! Yes! You read correctly… INFECTIONS! Even an emergency room visit and a $300 bill when I thought I lost my tampon! 🙂

My periods last for a full week and wearing disposable pads were not good for my body. My skin would break out and sometimes, even worst, infection. I’ve had enough and decided to do some research. For a few years, before I decided to try reusable products, I was interested in trying. Even before then, I wanted to make my own products. Anyway, fast forward to mid-2017, I researched products that would benefit my lifestyle. I then purchased luna cups and reusable pads.  Speaking of benefits, I would like to list some of the things I was looking forward to not dealing with when I decided on my reusable products…

  1. I HATE traditional, disposable PADS!! With a passion!! For years I’ve suffered and when I found that I had an option outside of “free-flowing” I was all for it! 
  2. Comfort- Traditional pads were so uncomfortable no matter the size I tried. I wore overnight pads in the evening and overnight for the simple fact that I leaked and wasted a lot of clothes ( and bedding) in the process. Having my husband wake up before I did and witnessing his wife in a literal bloodbath is embarrassing and unattractive (even though he wouldn’t admit it)
  3. No leaking-  I would have to wear swimsuit bottoms over my underwear to ensure that I won’t stain my clothes for the first few days of my period because my flow always started so heavy. Don’t believe me? Ask my sister! 🙂
  4. Protective and discreet- I would hate to wear dress pants and dresses while on my period because I could feel pads through my clothes if that makes sense and because I despise tampons and always had a heavy flow, pads were my only option!
  5. No irritations or infections- Mind you, I am immaculate when it comes to my hygiene, so when I tell you I’ve suffered from infection and rashes due to the disposable pads believe me when I tell you it had nothing to do with my up-keep.

If you were like me and dealt with severe cramping and rashes, your disposable pads were probably to blame. Disposable pads use plastics, which block airflow to your vagina, and not surprisingly, can encourage a painful rash. Disposables also use artificial fibers, which are super-absorbent but will also absorb all the moisture in your vagina, increasing your chances of severe pain and infections. These disposables pads are made with synthetic fibers, plastics and other harsh things harmful to your body and then is bleached to give you that appearance of purity and sanitation. Can you imagine putting bleach down there?! Well, if you wear disposable pads, that’s exactly what you’re doing! Add other synthetic chemicals and artificial fragrances to the mix, and you’ve got a recipe for side effects like allergic reactions, hormone disruption, reproductive and gynecological disorders.  It’s almost crazy to believe that something so small can impact you in such a huge way! We always talk about what we put in our bodies but we also need to be mindful what we use on it especially during the time when your body is releasing toxins and waste out of you.

So I know many are thinking “How in the world is it cleaner than a disposable pad if you have to touch it?” Well, my answer would be to each their own. For me, I’ve gotten over the whole “ugh” phase because I’ve changed plenty of diapers and soiled babies over the years. Plus with all of the incidents, I’m used to cleaning up after myself! But cleaning the cloth pads and menstrual cups and even staying fresh with them on is easier than you think!

The discreet packaging for my reusable pads and cups are everything!

If you are a visual person like myself, check out this video on cleaning your cloth pads from one of my favorite YouTubers, Glamizini (start at 10:49):

Here’s a video on how to clean your menstrual cups (Start at 2:22):

These ladies don’t use the same brand I use, but the cleaning and maintenance is practically the same. 

If you have the guts to try this out, let me know and share your thoughts! But please understand, this is only for educational purposes and in no way am I trying to convince you to go green. There are so many ways feminine hygiene has improved, so do your own research!

Fireproof Your Marriage: The Love Dare (Days 13-20)
  • April 11, 2016

Back to our regularly schedule posts! Last week was my 30th birthday and I just had to share the 30 things I’ve learned…but this week I am back to the 40 day Love Dare Challenge!

This week, I will recap Days 13 through 20. Now I have to admit, my Crimson friend arrived and she had my emotions all over the place! My husband caught the backend to it and I have been apologizing to him since Saturday!! But, let’s see what we SHOULD have learned this past week!

 

Day 13: Love fights fair

The Dare: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement….resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.

Obviously, Day 13 was a complete fail this week! I am learning to deal rationally while my Crimson friend is in town. I’ve been doing better but there is always room for improvement.

Day 14: Love takes delight

The Dare: Purposely neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they’d really like to work on. Just be together.

This is actually funny to me because after our little spat, I’ve been trying to become more delightful and graceful to my husband. I blame Eve!!

Day 15: Love is honorable

The Dare: Choose a way to honor and respect your spouse that is above your normal routine…show your spouse that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

A nice foot rub can put a smile on anyone’s face and doing so without your spouse asking is both surprising and honorable (especially after a fight!) Obviously, I’ve been rubbing feet all week!!

Day 16: Love intercedes

The Dare: Begin praying today for your spouse’s heart.

I pray for my husband daily..even multiple times a day. Working outside of the home can be stressful for your spouse so go before God for them, it means more than you think!

Day 17: Love promotes intimacy

The Dare: Determine to guard your mate’s secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or to you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.

Intimacy is way more than sex. Intimacy is how you guard your husband’s heart and emotions. I’ve learned that even though my husband can be thick-skinned, he longs to be heard and feel wanted. Intimacy begins with a positive morning (for you non-morning people) and throughout the day!

Day 18: Love seeks to understand

The Dare: Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice as you prefer. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you’ve rarely talked about. Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.

Everyday I learn something new about my husband. Whether we want to admit it, we change quite often. Our standards indeed remain the same, but we may go about it a different way. communicating these differences and emotions matters in a marriage. I’m still learning to include my husband in my deepest thoughts even if its not that deep to him or vice versa!

Day 19: Love is impossible

The Dare: Look back over the dares from previous days. Were there some that seemed impossible to you? Have you realized your need for God to change your heart and to give you the ability to love? Ask him to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.

 

Day 20: Love is Jesus Christ

The Dare: Dare to take God at his word. Dare to trust Jesus Christ for salvation. Dare to pray, “Lord Jesus, I am a sinner. But you have shown your love for me by dying to forgive my sins, and you have proven your power to save me from death by your resurrection. Lord, change my heart, and save me by your grace.”

 

Wow!! Day 20 gives us the opportunity to get it right…do our first works over. Learning the source and example of true intimacy and relationship gives us all a foundation in our marriage. Have you repented for your shortcomings? As Paul states, we must die daily!

 

Ok people!! 20 days remain in the challenge!! Let’s do this!!

 

It’s my 30th Birthday!!!
  • April 8, 2016

NO MORE TWENTIES!!!

I think may cry!! God has been so good to me and I am ready to see what amazing things He’ll do in the 30s!! I’ve learned so many things the past 30 years and I would like to list…

30 things I’ve learned in 30 years in good humor! ENJOY!!!

  1. God is Good… IN ALL THINGS!!!
  2. Family is important!
  3. People will use you!
  4. BOLDNESS!!!
  5. I still look like a high school student! And that’s ok! #blackdontcrack
  6.  God knew what He was doing when He gave me my husband.
  7. Friends are all about quality not quantity.
  8. Everyone is not your friend!
  9. Take care of yourself. Mentally and Physically!
  10. Love yourself!!
  11. I cannot eat dairy products and that’s ok!
  12. Ask for help!!
  13. It’s ok to take a nap! I deserve it!
  14. I make glasses trendy!
  15. Forgive others.
  16. Stay away from foolish/petty people.
  17. Admitting to myself that I am flawed, but that’s ok!
  18. Debt free is the way to be!
  19. Don’t compare yourself to others! Everyone’s struggle differ!
  20. I don’t have to wear 6 inch heels everyday to be cute!
  21. My milkmaid twists are super dope!!
  22. Follow your dreams
  23. Floods may come but the latter is always greater!
  24. Invest in yourself!
  25. Smile!!
  26. Laugh often!
  27. Date nights are essential!
  28. Everyday is a lesson learned!
  29. Speak Life!
  30. Learn something new!

 

I am so blessed to join the 30s club!! God has been so good thus far and I know He will show up and show out in my 30s!! So much learning and growing ahead and I can’t wait to enjoy the ride!!IMG_20160327_095354 20140802_134518 IMG_20160103_141939 IMG_20160303_114649