I have been sitting on this information for over a year now and I truly believe now it the time to share my thoughts! It is not common for Black women to speak of feminine care in a descriptive matter and I want to be the one to break the silence. Growing up, talking about feminine hygiene was taboo. Thankfully, with all the talk and research of reproductive issues and health issues, I can educate my daughters and little sisters about the importance of asking questions about what’s going on with their bodies because for me at their age, I didn’t have a clue! I want to be able to speak freely of the importance of what we use for that time of the month and ways we can improve our overall health and hygiene.
Since the age of 14, I’ve had all sorts of experiences and incidents revolving around my menstrual cycle: heavy flows, sporadic cycles, severe cramping and migraines and much more! When I got married at 19 and shortly after became pregnant, my periods were pretty much non-existent! Nursing and shortly after a year, I’m pregnant again and again and again and honestly, I enjoyed not having a period for nearly 7 years!! But in recent years, after my last nursing phase, my periods returned with migraines and even infections! Yes! You read correctly… INFECTIONS! Even an emergency room visit and a $300 bill when I thought I lost my tampon! 🙂
My periods last for a full week and wearing disposable pads were not good for my body. My skin would break out and sometimes, even worst, infection. I’ve had enough and decided to do some research. For a few years, before I decided to try reusable products, I was interested in trying. Even before then, I wanted to make my own products. Anyway, fast forward to mid-2017, I researched products that would benefit my lifestyle. I then purchased luna cups and reusable pads. Speaking of benefits, I would like to list some of the things I was looking forward to not dealing with when I decided on my reusable products…
If you were like me and dealt with severe cramping and rashes, your disposable pads were probably to blame. Disposable pads use plastics, which block airflow to your vagina, and not surprisingly, can encourage a painful rash. Disposables also use artificial fibers, which are super-absorbent but will also absorb all the moisture in your vagina, increasing your chances of severe pain and infections. These disposables pads are made with synthetic fibers, plastics and other harsh things harmful to your body and then is bleached to give you that appearance of purity and sanitation. Can you imagine putting bleach down there?! Well, if you wear disposable pads, that’s exactly what you’re doing! Add other synthetic chemicals and artificial fragrances to the mix, and you’ve got a recipe for side effects like allergic reactions, hormone disruption, reproductive and gynecological disorders. It’s almost crazy to believe that something so small can impact you in such a huge way! We always talk about what we put in our bodies but we also need to be mindful what we use on it especially during the time when your body is releasing toxins and waste out of you.
So I know many are thinking “How in the world is it cleaner than a disposable pad if you have to touch it?” Well, my answer would be to each their own. For me, I’ve gotten over the whole “ugh” phase because I’ve changed plenty of diapers and soiled babies over the years. Plus with all of the incidents, I’m used to cleaning up after myself! But cleaning the cloth pads and menstrual cups and even staying fresh with them on is easier than you think!
If you are a visual person like myself, check out this video on cleaning your cloth pads from one of my favorite YouTubers, Glamizini (start at 10:49):
Here’s a video on how to clean your menstrual cups (Start at 2:22):
These ladies don’t use the same brand I use, but the cleaning and maintenance is practically the same.
If you have the guts to try this out, let me know and share your thoughts! But please understand, this is only for educational purposes and in no way am I trying to convince you to go green. There are so many ways feminine hygiene has improved, so do your own research!
Back to our regularly schedule posts! Last week was my 30th birthday and I just had to share the 30 things I’ve learned…but this week I am back to the 40 day Love Dare Challenge!
This week, I will recap Days 13 through 20. Now I have to admit, my Crimson friend arrived and she had my emotions all over the place! My husband caught the backend to it and I have been apologizing to him since Saturday!! But, let’s see what we SHOULD have learned this past week!
Day 13: Love fights fair
The Dare: Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagementâ€¦.resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
Obviously, Day 13 was a complete fail this week! I am learning to deal rationally while my Crimson friend is in town. I’ve been doing better but there is always room for improvement.
Day 14: Love takes delight
The Dare: Purposely neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project theyâ€™d really like to work on. Just be together.
This is actually funny to me because after our little spat, I’ve been trying to become more delightful and graceful to my husband. I blame Eve!!
Day 15: Love is honorable
The Dare: Choose a way to honor and respect your spouse that is above your normal routineâ€¦show your spouse that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.
A nice foot rub can put a smile on anyone’s face and doing so without your spouse asking is both surprising and honorable (especially after a fight!) Obviously, I’ve been rubbing feet all week!!
Day 16: Love intercedes
The Dare: Begin praying today for your spouseâ€™s heart.
I pray for my husband daily..even multiple times a day. Working outside of the home can be stressful for your spouse so go before God for them, it means more than you think!
Day 17: Love promotes intimacy
The Dare: Determine to guard your mateâ€™s secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or to you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you.Â Make them feel safe.
Intimacy is way more than sex. Intimacy is how you guard your husband’s heart and emotions. I’ve learned that even though my husband can be thick-skinned, he longs to be heard and feel wanted. Intimacy begins with a positive morning (for you non-morning people) and throughout the day!
Day 18: Love seeks to understand
The Dare: Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. The dinner can be as nice as you prefer.Â Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas youâ€™ve rarely talked about.Â Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.
Everyday I learn something new about my husband. Whether we want to admit it, we change quite often. Our standards indeed remain the same, but we may go about it a different way. communicating these differences and emotions matters in a marriage. I’m still learning to include my husband in my deepest thoughts even if its not that deep to him or vice versa!
Day 19: Love is impossible
The Dare: Look back over the dares from previous days. Were there some that seemed impossible to you? Have you realized your need for God to change your heart and to give you the ability to love? Ask him to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.
Day 20: Love is Jesus Christ
The Dare: Dare to take God at his word. Dare to trust Jesus Christ for salvation. Dare to pray, â€œLord Jesus, I am a sinner. But you have shown your love for me by dying to forgive my sins, and you have proven your power to save me from death by your resurrection. Lord, change my heart, and save me by your grace.â€
Wow!! Day 20 gives us the opportunity to get it right…do our first works over. Learning the source and example of true intimacy and relationship gives us all a foundation in our marriage. Have you repented for your shortcomings? As Paul states, we must die daily!
Ok people!! 20 days remain in the challenge!! Let’s do this!!
NO MORE TWENTIES!!!
I think may cry!! God has been so good to me and I am ready to see what amazing things He’ll do in the 30s!! I’ve learned so many things the past 30 years and I would like to list…
30 things I’ve learned in 30 years in good humor! ENJOY!!!
What is the most important meal of the day?
BREAKFAST. RIGHT?! Well, of course, but did you know that when a family shares a meal, it becomes much more than eggs and oatmeal being consumed, it becomes an increase in self esteem and grades and a decrease in childhood depression and teen pregnancies?!?
Well, family meals are important and research supports this! The Family Dinner Project states, “Dinner is a time to relax, recharge, laugh, tell stories and catch up on the dayâ€™s ups and downs, while developing a sense of who we are as a family.”Â http://thefamilydinnerproject.org/resources/faq/
Aside from the importance of a home cooked meal, feeding the starving attention of your family is the greatest thing you can do for your relationship with your children. Families re usually together during mealtime anyway, why not make it family time as well.
Here are my top five suggestions in making a Table Treaty with your family:
5. When possible prepare meals together. Whether it’s a homemade pizza with all the fixings or a simple salad, make it a moment to bond.
4. Try to eat dinner the same time, everyday. Repetition is key. Dinner shouldÂ be the moment of the day that everyone wouldÂ look forward to.
3. Make conversation. Communication is healthy for the entire family…break bread and converse!
2. Turn off all forms of entertainment (phone, portal games, TV, etc.). I believe technology is one of the big influences, both positively and negatively in society. No one knows how to function without it. At dinner time and for the remaining of the evening, no devices should be allowed. Nighttime is the time to unwind and prepare mentally for the next day. So, unwind with the company and conversation of family.
So with all the new fads and promises we make for the New Year, make this one count!! Let’s make healthy habits and change the way we communicate… it all can begin at the table!
My generation seems to be intrigued with exploring new avenues, trying different cultures, and taking new risks. We are happy with ending racism by ignoring it, and learning ways of life that we never thought of.
Just recently, my family and I have decided to take a bold step out of the city life and start a homestead in Texas. But this won’t be a normal homestead. Everything here has to have a purpose. And at the center of it all, nothing can take away from our relationship with Christ! We didn’t start out like your normal family. We were married young, had 5 children, and we took risks that most people wouldn’t dream of. We always believed that nothing really bad could happen to us, and that we wouldn’t die from it. Looking back, we know we were really immature and could have died several times, but we are here now.
Homesteading is family!
We love the life that we are living, and it is a step out of the norm, but it is well worth it. Just be very careful! Homesteading is not for the faint of heart. From getting chickens to getting goats to killing venomous snakes, a lot of this life is make up solutions as problems come. No one has all the answers to survival out here. You can’t work a 9 – 5 to solve all of your answers, and a lot of times your money doesn’t solve anything. It’s a wonderful life, but it is an unstable one. There are issues you would never expect, like overgrown weeds, where you wouldn’t have a problem before. Normally between the HOA’s and foot traffic, you would never think that grass is a problem. But let it rain two weeks in Houston, Texas, and your grass is 4ft. Leave it like that for a month and you will find a pit of Copperhead Snakes. Next thing you know, you have foxes, and you can’t figure out why all of your chickens are dying. All of this from GRASS. Just GRASS!
You couldn’t be more Wronger
But this life has it’s benefits too. You find yourself intrigued by where your food comes from, and what you feed your animals. You become encouraged by the quality of goat milk you can get from a meat goat, and you start to try things that other homesteaders wouldn’t. You start to build things that look like crap, but cost $0.49 in wood and serves the purpose. Whereas before, you would have built a beautiful $9,000 shed made from only the best treated wood. The best thing is, you watch your children grow up curious about the world and without fear. You see them solve problems that they normally wouldn’t be exposed to. You know they will be something great as they get older, but you will enjoy their ingenuity while they are young. And you will enjoy the attachment to your animals. As you learn their little nuances and see the way they interact day-in and day-out, your animals will become your adopted children. And for all of you who say, “I don’t like animals now, I will just want them for their production!” You couldn’t be more Wronger. Your love will grow and you never even know it. My wife was the same way, until she lost her chicken one day. Now her emotion is completely different.
And although you may get a kick out of that video, she was completely heart-broken. How could someone so cruel trade her beautiful chicken for 6 “ugly” chickens. Because of production? Not worth it!!
Again, these are some of the fantastic endeavors you will face as you start homesteading, but it is completely worth it. It keeps your life in reality. It keeps your family together. It keeps you grounded as a person. And it keeps you living within your means. Just think, based on the statistic of our culture, she should be arguing and throwing pots at me because I slept with her best-friend’s, cousin’s baby-mama, but instead, we are arguing and throwing pots because our Cinnamon Queen was given away without thinking. A chicken we would eventually eat! Yep, we will be married for a very long time, and our children will grow up in a happy and high-spirited environment. All without any access to the normal drama of life many of you may go through. Homesteading is family!
Yes! Surprised? Well don’t be. Many of you feel the exact same way.
Recently, I discovered that my biggest influence, my online pastor, my role model, Pastor Bob Coy of Calvary Chapel in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida had resigned April 3, 2014 as Head Pastor for “moral failure”….simply put, for admitting adultery and porn addiction. I was and still is in disbelief of the news. All I wanted to do is hear a Word as I have in the past from him on his Activeword.org website to find all of his materials and archivesÂ gone. I am absolutely disappointed and am hurt to know that the person whom I received “counseling” from all these years, has committed the sin he speaks against all the time! Yes, he is only a man, but if you could only hear his passion (what now may have been a cry for help) about marriage saying, “our marriages and ministries are under attack” “guard your relationships” “don’t take family for granted”. He wasn’t your typical Megachurch Pastor who only told people what they want to hear; he spoke Bible! Pastor Coy backed up EVERYTHING with scripture and I supported him. Now why am I sick of the church? Well, that’s simple!
For years, the church has becomeÂ an all you can eat buffet; a place where people come to stuff there faces with food with no limit. They are becoming sick because of the mess they consume and choose to indulge in. It is no longer a hospital for the sick and lame, but it has become the place where sinful people come to be reassured about their situation and not change a thing because the Grace of God will rescue them each and every time!
Pastors are living “secret lives”, their messages are no longer life-changing but more of a “Wa“. People are leaving millions of churches empty. The creation usually represents the creator, so if the pastor is living an empty life, he can only pour into people what he has inside of him.
No one talks about sin, because everyone is covering up theirs. Pastors being excused of adultery, pornography, theft, and an array of things. Usually, when their sin is brought to light, they are “praised” and encouraged saying the devil won’t steal our joy.Ha! Your pastor just got caught up Â WITH EVIDENCE and you’re defending him? While pastors like Bob Coy confess because the Holy Spirit is yet working on him and is convicting him so he confesses and people are calling him a “false teacher”? It bothers me! If anything he is forgiven.
Th church has become lukewarm in everything and even questioning the bible they are suppose to live by for the sake of comfort and numbers. I feel as if I don’t want to be apart of that group of people everyone is talking about. My standard is the bible! The bible is my road to life everlasting and my light will be seen, but it feels like if I am with a bunch of watered down Christians, that I will be looked at as the same. I know that out of all the madness the church is allowing, there are a FEW in the church who remains and will stand on the Word of God, who will not give in to the culture that the church is allowing to influence them. Every person I come in contact to will know and SEE the difference.
I have never felt this type of sympathy for the church like I do now. I am on a mission and God will get the glory out of every aspect of my life!
Be the difference, even in the church. Timeout for playing church! Souls need deliverance and conviction!
Well, I visited my doctor for my 27 week prenatal exam. Baby is doing awesome and like before gave the nurse a hard time trying to measure and listen to her heartbeats. She’s a little mover!! Â I gained 2 lbs since my last visit 3 weeks ago and I received my results from my glucose test which was negative…YAY!! One of the nurses called me last week trying to scare me about my iron levels but my doctor confirmed that everything checked out great!
I feel much heavier than a few weeks ago and have to potty more often…more like 3 times an hour!! She moves all throughout the night making sleeping less pleasant and very uncomfortable! Sometimes, walking for a long period of time (like walking through a mall) is uneasy now. This baby want me to take my time in everything I do ad if I don’t, I will definitely feel it! I will be so happy to deliver this baby and look at her face to face and ask her why she had to be so different from the rest of my pregnancies!
I have been craving weird things like peanut butter and Twizzlers (not together..ugh!) I don’t even like Twizzlers, but I just had to eat them! I also have been cooking up some of my awesome chili (for the extra iron of course) and have been drinking plenty of water!! Water is so refreshing and pleasing than lemonades and fruit juices in my opinion…before it was the other way around! But to my surprise, I probably would have to cut pineapple out of my diet my last month or so..why? Well… continue reading.
Pineapples my induce labor!! What?? I’ve been pregnant 4 other times and all of the research I have done, I never came across this information. Maybe it was not for me to worry about then. Or, maybe I should continue to do what I have been doing. But anyway,
Bromelain, a type of proteolytic enzyme found in pineapples, may help to soften the cervix which could explain how it helps to bring on labor.Â Since it is also used as a digestive aid, it may stimulate the bowels to move, which could bring on contractions as well.Â Even if pineapples donâ€™t help to bring on labor, they may help tone and ripen your cervix, making your body more favorable to start labor. But it is only found in fresh pineapples.
What do you think about this info?
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always suffered from horrible headaches and migraines. When I get a headache, it ruins the entire day. I can’t eat, can’t tend to my family, am sensitive to light and I will be in bed all day long. Just recently, I did my research on ways I can eliminate them.Â First let us define what a headache and migraine is because there’s a difference!
Headache: A pain in the head with the pain being above the eyes or ears, behind the head, or under the back of the upper neck.
Migraine headache: A migraine headache can cause intense throbbing or pulsing in on area of the head and is commonly accompanied by nausea, vomiting, and extreme sensitivity to light and sound. Migraine attacks can cause significant pain for hours to days and be so sever that all you can think about is finding a dark, quiet place to lie down.
|Low Fat Apple Phyllo Pie|
Well I couldn’t start this series without giving you a lighter version of an All American Apple Pie. This recipe is courtesy of Â Fiona Haynes andÂ http://lowfatcooking.about.com/od/dessert/r/applepie.htm
Now in an average slice of Â your traditional apple pie is up to 400 calories per serving. This recipe still serves the purpose of a great apple pie not lacking in flavor or decency. It’s a win-win!!