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It’s my 30th Birthday!!!
  • April 8, 2016

NO MORE TWENTIES!!!

I think may cry!! God has been so good to me and I am ready to see what amazing things He’ll do in the 30s!! I’ve learned so many things the past 30 years and I would like to list…

30 things I’ve learned in 30 years in good humor! ENJOY!!!

  1. God is Good… IN ALL THINGS!!!
  2. Family is important!
  3. People will use you!
  4. BOLDNESS!!!
  5. I still look like a high school student! And that’s ok! #blackdontcrack
  6.  God knew what He was doing when He gave me my husband.
  7. Friends are all about quality not quantity.
  8. Everyone is not your friend!
  9. Take care of yourself. Mentally and Physically!
  10. Love yourself!!
  11. I cannot eat dairy products and that’s ok!
  12. Ask for help!!
  13. It’s ok to take a nap! I deserve it!
  14. I make glasses trendy!
  15. Forgive others.
  16. Stay away from foolish/petty people.
  17. Admitting to myself that I am flawed, but that’s ok!
  18. Debt free is the way to be!
  19. Don’t compare yourself to others! Everyone’s struggle differ!
  20. I don’t have to wear 6 inch heels everyday to be cute!
  21. My milkmaid twists are super dope!!
  22. Follow your dreams
  23. Floods may come but the latter is always greater!
  24. Invest in yourself!
  25. Smile!!
  26. Laugh often!
  27. Date nights are essential!
  28. Everyday is a lesson learned!
  29. Speak Life!
  30. Learn something new!

 

I am so blessed to join the 30s club!! God has been so good thus far and I know He will show up and show out in my 30s!! So much learning and growing ahead and I can’t wait to enjoy the ride!!IMG_20160327_095354 20140802_134518 IMG_20160103_141939 IMG_20160303_114649

Fireproof Your Marriage: The Love Dare (Days 6-12)
  • April 1, 2016

We are into the next phase of the challenge? What did you learn this past week?!?!

 

Well, I’ve learned that men need encouragement and compliments as much as we do despite the fact that they’re men and won’t admit it!

Let’s look at days 6-12!

Day 6: Love is not irritable

The Dare: Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margins to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.

Now I know I’m not the only one who thinks they can be quite a bother. We (women) can be a bit petty when it comes to certain situations, but this challenge focuses on trying to tame it. How we react to things will make or break a conversation or even relationship. Choose wisely!

 

Day 7: Love believes the best

The Dare: On one sheet of paper, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on a second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day … at some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.

Choosing to speak and think positively is usually easier said than done. We have to be positive to gain positive results.

 

Day 8: Love is not jealous

The Dare: Determine to become your spouse’s biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.

For me, it is easy to become my husband’s biggest fan. I’ve realized the importance of support in marriage. Even if I don’t quite understand my husbands calling or hobby, I will support him to the fullest because I am confident that the Lord is leading him.

 

Day 9: Love makes good impressions

The Dare: Think of a specific way you’d like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.

Ummm…. I think you know how the normal wife will greet their husband…not need to go further!

 

Day 10: Love is unconditional

The Dare: Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse—something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else….demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.

Love is a verb! In what ways do you show your love? Mine will be baking my husband his favorite dessert!

 

Day 11: Love cherishes

The Dare: Choose a gesture that says, “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.

 

Day 12: Love lets others win

The Dare: Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.

You don’t always have to be right..just let go and love!!

 

Are you taking to challenge?!

 

 

 

 

Fireproof Challenge: The Love Dare (Days 1- 5)
  • March 25, 2016

It’s Spring!!! Flowers are blooming…Earth is awaken and refreshed!! So.. this is the perfect opportunity to awaken and revive our marriages! With so many diseased relationships, it is time to remedy them with a interactive challenge. The Love Dare Challenge!! Now, we can discuss all the mess we see in social media concerning marriages, but why spend our focus and time on the obvious and make that time useful in building marriages?!?

 

If you are not familiar with the Love Dare, well, it was made popular by a Christian movie called, Fireproof.

In the movie FIREPROOF, The Love Dare covers the topics of relationship parasites (addictions like pornography and gambling) and unconditional love. The Love Dare devotional book expands and extends the topics addressed in the film’s plot to include such vital issues as:

  • Why Marriage? Explore the blessings and challenges of godly marriage.
  • Contract or Covenant? Examine the difference between the world’s design for marriage and God’s original intention.
  • Clean Fighting. Learn how to fight the fires of conflict effectively and respectfully.
  • Leading Your Heart, Instead of Vice Versa. Practice choosing love when it isn’t your instinctive response.

(Click HERE to purchase the book)

 

This week (Monday through Friday) the focus was as follows:

Day 1-  do not say anything negative to your spouse. Great or small. We tend to nag or complain without thought and much of the time, it is miserable to always assume that all your spouse do is speak or think negative about everything. Replace your nagging with compliments….

 

Day 2-  Do an unexpected gesture of kindness. Letting your spouse know you care in the smallest way..whether it’d be washing the car, ironing their clothes or even a note in their lunch will go a long way. I know from experience my husband loves to have me visit him for lunch at his job. It brightens his day!

 

Day 3-  Buy something for your spouse. From a greeting card to a box of chocolate or if you’re fancy, an outfit from his/her favorite store!

 

Day 4- Contact your spouse during the day to check on them. I love to call my husband throughout the day. If you use discernment, you will know when to call them when they need it the most.

 

Day 5- Now this is where it gets a bit hands on…..Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them. Can you do it?!?! After much conversation and care, this will become second nature to just communicate!

 

I’m taking the challenge. Not to say my marriage is in turmoil, it is to say I care and want more out of my relationship… a revival. Same with having a relationship with God, there is always room to grow and know more about the Father. He has so much to reveal to us if we would only commune with Him…God created relationships AKA marriages and they are a reflection ( or should be) of our relationship/intimacy with Him.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Material taken from The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, copyright © 2009 by B&H Publishing Group.

 

 

What To Do Before Your Husband Comes Home….
  • February 26, 2016

Now, I can’t speak for anyone else, but my life as a homemaker has been awesome thus far and I’m enjoying every moment spent raising my children and watching them bloom into great human beings! :) But being a homemaker can also be quite overwhelming to a point where you can’t figure out why and how all of the time went. So, I decided to map out my day so I would know how my time is spent and if I’m as productive as I need to be.

During the day, I try to clean in intervals. I have 2 little ones at home until noon, so I keep them occupied with coloring books and activities so I can start my cleaning adventures (sweeping, mopping, laundry). When I have most of my cleaning completed, I attempt to change into some clothes…It is very tempting to walk around in pajamas on the days when you’re home with no reason to even check the mail. There has been plenty of times where time didn’t permit me to even shower let alone look presentable for my husband, so I make it an effort to look decent. :) Now, this may be old school to some, but history shows that men hasn’t changed and they have expectations about their homes…

But here are my top 3 things you can do before your husband comes home from work…

3. Change your clothes!!! Get out of last night’s PJ’s and look like you took care of yourself during the day. I can’t tell you how much this means to your husband when he comes home after a long day to see his wife adorned.

2. Have dinner prepared and a snack on hand when he arrives. This has been something very important for me, because having a large family, I cannot slack in the food department. Something has to be prepared when the children comes home from school as well as something for daddy. My husband usually works through lunch so his first meal will be what you serve to him when he arrives.

1. Maintain a clean home. Coming home tripping over a pile of shoes at the front door is not a good welcome, so straightening up a bit. This will also spare you an unnecessary argument because you’re upset everyone’s walking over shoes…just put them in its place during the day.

What are some of your suggestions on keeping a clean home? What are some ways you prepare for your husband’s arrival? Please share!!

 

Promises Fulfilled: Introduction to City Girl, Country Living
  • January 18, 2016

Ever received a word from the Lord and He sweeps you off your feet in the direction of the promises He’s promised to you? Then suddenly, you seem to be steered off track to find out it was all apart of His plan?

Well, I can testify that we are and were faced with plenty of detours our entire time here in Texas. If you are new to my blog, I suggest you hold your place here and begin reading my entries entitled, “Thankful Thursday: Journey to Texas”… well, in review February 2016 will mark our 5th year here in Texas. We’ve had some challenges, but we also had many successes… (2) evictions, pregnancies and farm animals! Being a city girl from Chicago, I believe I was prepared for the unexpected and the hustle of it all, so I was bred with tough skin! LOL

April of 2014, we closed on 2 acres of land that was in horrible condition; if you look at the before pictures, you would have thought we were crazy..well, jokes on you, because…… WE ARE!! lol We cleared the property off, killed a few snakes and chainsaw a few trees and placed our mobile home on the property within a month’s time!! Fast forward to October 2015, we have a healthy flock of free-ranged hens, two goats, a pig and a donkey! Yep, Chicago born and raised turned to dirt slinging, egg catching farmers! We were living our life’s dream!! Well, October 31 came around and we were alerted of a nearby tornado, so I woke up my family (including a very tired and angry husband) and we left! Well, half a day went by and we went to check on the house! We GLORY TO GOD, it’s still in tact, but…huh?!?! We’re completely flooded out! My husband literally swam to the house to grab clothes and feed the visible animals. IMG_2832

Once the waters receeded, we returned to find only 4 of our chickens alive and dead goat and our pig with 5 piglets!! LOL God surely has a sense of humor, because even in our loss, we somehow manage to experience gain in the midst! Seeing our pig with her babies shown me that even though it may look bad around me, God still provides and will keep our heads above the waters He sent to us. What an amazing reassurance!

God, sent the floods not only to restore my faith, but He revealed that He still will fulfill His promise to us! I’ve also learned that trials have purpose.  We are still in clean up mode even 3 months after the flood, but God has been restoring since day one. God cannot lie, so seeing Him continue to work in the midst of is so encouraging. His word says, For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord,” plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” -Jeremiah 29:11

Knowing that His plans will continue and that the detours were apart of His plan as well…NOTHING SURPRISES HIM! He’s all knowing!

 

I hope this is encouraging to you as it has been for my family! He’s good y’all IN ALL THINGS!!

 

 

 

**stay tuned for our life as homesteaders the past few months and things to come in the future!**

Makeover My Mornings Challenge (Young Wife’s Guide Inspired)
  • January 11, 2016

I AM A WOMAN. I AM A WIFE. I AM A MOTHER….

Even the more reason to complete this challenge and to make it apart of my everyday. We, as women, are consumed by life whether we are clocking in at Corporate America or cleaning up fallen glitter at 7:30 AM (true story); so having those quiet moments are essential in being refreshed, though rare, it is essential. With any job, you are given breaks and vacations…although we can’t vacation from our responsibilities, we can have those burst of me- times to keep us pressing . I remember years ago, there was this popular YouTube video that interviewed people for the labor intense, almost inhumane job position to find out mothers do this year round, nonstop! Job Interview (click to view) Watching this video again, makes me even more encouraged as a wife and mother. God is good and He knew what he did when he created us! We are the brace to our families and we can either make or break it. With the challenge, I’m choosing to make my family stronger and wiser with the Lord’s help.

Well, this year, this week starting today for the next 14 days, I will partake in a challenge inspired by Young Wife’s Guide called Makeover Your Morning Challenge. I was inspired to participate in this challenge for the simple fact that life can be draining and as a mother, I have no time for that! So, instead of complaining about my daily routine and to-do’s, I’d figure I give it to God…after all, God says “I am the LORD, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” (Jeremiah 32:27)

The next 14 days will consist of me waking up an hour before my family to spend time with God….to study His Word… to journal my thoughts, questions and desires and also to write His responses according to His Word. I hear of people waking up early to exercise and stay fit for the day’s journey, well, in my case, I will exercise my faith and will prepare for the day’s journey with praise and worship. To be perfectly honest, I know there will be obstacles that will prevent me from reaching the Lord in the morning, but that’s more fuel to my spiritual flame I have burning in me to get closer to the Lord.

 

So, who will take the challenge?

Modesty isn’t #trendy
  • December 10, 2015

It is not surprising that modesty is getting backlash now. After all, holiness is right and anything holy is under attack these days. The society we’re in is perverse and focused on physical appearance..AKA skin is in…and ALL OUT for display. I’ve spoke on modesty and the importance of setting an example for my children and others so this topic isn’t new at all. Speaking against secular ideologies are not a very popular thing to do but necessary in the culture we’re in. The world is acting out on their emotions and instead of morals and dignity; so to see someone with a platform speak about modesty is refreshing…slim to none but refreshing!

Everyone’s into barely wearing clothes these days huh? Not my style. I like to keep the good stuff covered up for the one who matters 😂😂😂

— Ayesha Curry (@ayeshacurry) December 6, 2015

Modesty isn’t trendy, but it is definitely stirring up conflict! I applaud Ayesha Curry for her boldness and stance on keeping it covered. Our young girls should be inspired and confident in knowing they don’t have to be exposed to gain attention or to become important. Your intelligence and confidence calls for recognition and attendance not your breast and  “upper thighs”.

The bible speaks on modesty and while I can quote scripture, it is also important to reflect what scripture speaks about daily. So when Paul addresses the issue, he says in 1 Timothy 2:9-10, “I also want women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds,appropriate for women who profess to worship God.” {NIV} So being the women of God, we must set the example and show others that your body is not for display and should be respected. Young girls are unaware of this truth because the world’s eyes are opened and are naked. Nothing’s left for the imagination! 

 

I commend Ayesha Curry for her stance and her commitment to change the face of celebrity into one that is humble and wholesome! So if anyone who feels ill-will about the comment she made, I honestly feel sorry for you! Imagine your daughter walking around with her parts exposed? You would feel embarrassed and angry. People  today say that people should be able to express themselves with prejudice; we are giving the free will to make that decision, but everything should to respect not only yourself but the people around you.

 

What are you views on modesty and humility? I would love to hear your thoughts!Ayesha Curry

Operation: Back to School Organization #FAIL
  • September 23, 2015

Being a mom and wife, things don’t always go the way we planned. Life happens, right?

Well, with that said, do you recall my post in August about my plans to organize my children’s clothes each school week? Well, It worked for 2 days! Yup, you read right! Not 2 weeks… TWO DAYS! I hung up my children’s clothes (Monday thru Friday) and after day 2, they didn’t like what they picked out! All of my planning went down the with the rest of my failed ideas! All of the prepping wasn’t all a bust, I lay out their clothes daily after school. They chose what they wanted to wear the next day and set it out for the next morning. No fuss, right? WRONG!!

There are still some days where my son or my 2nd oldest daughter would change their minds 15 minutes before the bus arrived. But, like an experienced mom in the attitude department, I just wake them 15 minutes earlier just in case! LOL

Life sends us curved balls all of the time, but when you know the game, it is not so bad to deal with! Well, I’m signing off! I have kids clothes to fold! LOL

 

What are some of your failed back to school ideas? We all have been there! Please share below or on my Facebook blog page https://www.facebook.com/hisproverbs1822

 

Say Yes to the Dress: 10 years later
  • September 10, 2015

Who would have thought I would be able to fit my wedding dress after 10 years!!??

I was lucky enough to travel to Chicago to grab my only physical memory of our wedding day. My wedding album somehow disappeared but thank God I have my dress in excellent condition!

IMG_1958When trying on my wedding dress a few days ago, my children mouths dropped! They thought it was the prettiest sight! My oldest even said she want to wear the dress when she gets married! Gladly!

So what are my plans for our 10th wedding anniversary? None, really. We will acknowledge God and thank Him for 10 years and keep pressing. This is only the beginning!

When Less is More
  • August 17, 2015

Growing up I was under the impression that life was about the bigger and better things of life. Looking back, I realize the pressure to appear to be something you’re not. People will go in debt to look the part. Is it worth it?

Now that I have my own family now and our own expenses, we choose to live within our means well enjoying our lives professionally and leisurely. Living less doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have the means to live, but you choose to live without the stress of living check to check. Get it?

For a few years now, my focus has been on my family and being debt free…  from mortgage to a piece of mind! It is easy to get wrapped up in the latest trend and way of life, but when you are focused on your goals, no trend can even tempt you! Don’t get me wrong a nice pair of shoes always makes a girl smile, but it should not be the source of your happiness.

I want my life to be full of adventure and thrills… risks and rewards. How can this happen if I’m living like the next person?! As Christians, we are to live a purposeful life. A life that is a refection of God’s love, grace and favor! When people see you, do they see Christ or the things you throw in their face? My hope is I’m seen “naked” and completely “transparent”. No one should ever question who I belong to or what I represent.

When you see me, I hope you see patience. Patience is a very complicated and “offensive” word for this day in age. We live in the express or gimme now society. No one waits for anything! My husband and I have a goal to build our first home (with our own hands) before age 33! This is unbelievable to many and some even have to offend their reason why they did something different. One person once said, To each its own” and I fond this to be valid. We never compared ourselves with the next couple, but being the light God has called us to be, some people feel the need to validate themselves. What people fail to realize, our decisions does not affect yours. You want the suburban life? Go for it!! We are godly proud of you! You want the most popular gadget?! Yessss, werk it out! But for me and my house, if we want those things, we believe we rather do it off of impulse or for popularity, but to fulfill our OWN goals! And in doing so, patience and hearing from God plays a huge role in our lives.

 

When you see me, I hope you see ingenuity. For the past year, we have been transitioning into a homestead life. Growing our own fruits, experimenting with farm animals, and farm fresh eggs, the works! Who would have thought that a couple of city kids would love the country life so much!! From big city contracts to building chicken coops and pig pens, who would have thought?! My hope is that people are encouraged to live out their dream even if it’s not very popular to do.

 

When you see me, I hope you see confidence. Being confident in your decisions can make you stand apart. People’s opinions begin to flow into your personal space. Once you are secure i your goals and livelihood, their opinions will not matter. When we decided to follow God and move to Texas, we had people praying against us…LITERALLY!! People told us they were praying against our hast decision. When we moved into a mobile home, we were told to just buy a home and worry about building one later. That may have worked for someone else, but not us! We are confident in our decision…even in our struggle.

 

When you have your life goals together, everything else doesn’t matter. Living a life of less is so relieving. Less drama, less negativity, less stress. You would think everyone’s goal is to be with less of these things, but some actually thrive on it. To each its own.

Actually, during this time of living within our means, I’ve been able to really enjoy nature. Living in the country has taught me to enjoy the beauty of God’s creation. It has also taught me to be a better steward of the things we are given. Too often we are concerned about artificial and man made fashions of this world and are easily wrapped up in fantasy that we lose focus of the things that matter…God, family and relationships. This Less is more journey is focused on those three things. I want all that God has in store for me…the true riches of life. One of my favorite songwriters (Jimmy Needham) sung,

“ Why are we so convinced a bigger audience
Is simply common sense to have?
Maybe success is measured best
By nothing less then our obedience”

If we put our focus and our energies to the Source of our being, we will enjoy the promises of God. If we stayed committed to God, our obedience, patience and long-suffering will be rewarded. What a way to be!!!!

Are you on a Less is more journey? What ways are you freeing yourself to enjoy the bounty of God’s promises for your life?