And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived… (Genesis 4:1)
I never knew you; depart from me… (Matthew 7:21-23)
What do these two scriptures mean to you? What do they have in common?
Welcome to my blog!! I haven’t been very active this year and it’s for a really important reason!
I am officially homeschooling my children. I’ve been fighting this for over 10 years and circumstances has brought us to the very important choice to home school our children.
I am very appreciative of the teachers that helped make learning fun and I am quite grateful for the experiences (good and bad) that help make my decision easier. But it was very hard to remove my comfort zone… public education.
After obtaining my degree in Education, I knew that I wanted to be a teacher. I wanted to change lives and mold great citizens. For over a year and a half, I’ve been hearing “Be the Change” and I was certain I knew what that entails. Not until recently, I was faced with situations that can easily be taken care of at home or for that matter would have never occurred. As a mom, my first reaction is to protect my children from outside influences, to guard their “gates”. I became offended by the remarks and excuses educators gave when it came to my children. Comments like, “Your child has become very distracted and uninterested in class. Their grades are amazing but I’m feeling that their lack of interest would do more harm than good.” This comment I have been hearing all year!! I would hate that my A students would be labeled as interested and possibly an issue for future educators.
We are big on education and to know that this simple comment can make or break my children in the future wasn’t a risk I wanted to take.
Although I kept receiving calls and emails and my uninterested children, my parenting and home life was questioned but I still tried to pursue teaching. Twice I’ve attempted to pass my certification and both times was unsuccessful. I truly believe this was my way out. My husband sat down with me and he made things clear for me. He said, obviously teaching in the public school isn’t for you, this is our chance to home school our own children. Then, it clicked, to be the change, it must start at home! I cried! To make things even more emotional, the first day home after I resigned from co-teaching at a public school, my youngest walked up to me (not knowing what I was thinking about) said, “I’m important too. I need you too!”
I dropped my insecurities about failing the certification (and to me failing at life) and started my research in home schooling again.
Then… the questions began to fill in my head….
“Will I have the patience for this?! I mean that 5 kids at all different levels in education!!”
“Am I being selfish for wanting my time alone during the day?”
“Can I do this?!”
“I think I will give up easily! Public education will eventually become my backup plan!”
Then it dawned on me… Patience for MY kids?! Are you serious!? I was willing to teaching 24 kids at a time with different learning styles and levels but I can’t teach my own FIVE children?!
There’s always time for myself if I’m willing to make time! YES I can do this and I will!!! I became my biggest discouragement! I refuse to fail!
My children need me and I will do this!! So the decision was made! So my kids will be home schooled!
BEST DECISION EVER!!
I’m a month in at home schooling and NO it is not easy and YES it will get better!! I am constantly changing my lesson planning and even trying out higher grade levels for my children. I know how easily bored children can become so the great outdoors and trips to the library make teaching and learning fun for all of us. Right now, I’m home schooling my youngest three. The oldest girls will begin this summer!
Home schooling is convenient and we can get a lot done in a short time. Vacations can be whenever we feel like it and no one will ever be absent! I am grateful for the opportunity to teach my children and I look forward to all they will do!
Be the change starts at home! I am the change my family needed and it begins with a “yes”. Yes I am willing to do what it takes to make my children successful. Yes I am willing to give them opportunity to explore and be kids! They deserve that much!
Stay tuned for more home schooling updates and curriculum suggestions!!
We are into the next phase of the challenge? What did you learn this past week?!?!
Well, I’ve learned that men need encouragement and compliments as much as we do despite the fact that they’re men and won’t admit it!
Let’s look at days 6-12!
Day 6: Love is not irritable
The Dare: Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margins to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
Now I know I’m not the only one who thinks they can be quite a bother. We (women) can be a bit petty when it comes to certain situations, but this challenge focuses on trying to tame it. How we react to things will make or break a conversation or even relationship. Choose wisely!
Day 7: Love believes the best
The Dare: On one sheet of paper, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on a second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day â€¦ at some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
Choosing to speak and think positively is usually easier said than done. We have to be positive to gain positive results.
Day 8: Love is not jealous
The Dare: Determine to become your spouseâ€™s biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterdayâ€™s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
For me, it is easy to become my husband’s biggest fan. I’ve realized the importance of support in marriage. Even if I don’t quite understand my husbands calling or hobby, I will support him to the fullest because I am confident that the Lord is leading him.
Day 9: Love makes good impressions
The Dare: Think of a specific way youâ€™d like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
Ummm…. I think you know how the normal wife will greet their husband…not need to go further!
Day 10: Love is unconditional
The Dare: Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouseâ€”something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based onÂ your choice and nothing elseâ€¦.demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
Love is a verb! In what ways do you show your love? Mine will be baking my husband his favorite dessert!
Day 11: Love cherishes
The Dare: Choose a gesture that says, â€œI cherish youâ€ and do it with a smile.
Day 12: Love lets others win
The Dare: Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.
You don’t always have to be right..just let go and love!!
Are you taking to challenge?!
I AM A WOMAN. I AM A WIFE. I AM A MOTHER….
Even the more reason to complete this challenge and to make it apart of my everyday. We, as women, are consumed by life whether we are clocking in at Corporate America or cleaning up fallen glitter at 7:30 AM (true story); so having those quiet moments are essential in being refreshed, though rare, it is essential. With any job, you are given breaks and vacations…although we can’t vacation from our responsibilities, we can have those burst of me- times to keep us pressing . I remember years ago, there was this popular YouTube video that interviewed people for the labor intense, almost inhumane job position to find out mothers do this year round, nonstop!Â Job InterviewÂ (click to view) Watching this video again, makes me even more encouraged as a wife and mother. God is good and He knew what he did when he created us! We are the brace to our families and we can either make or break it. With the challenge, I’m choosing to make my family stronger and wiser with the Lord’s help.
Well, this year, this week starting today for the next 14 days, I will partake in a challenge inspired by Young Wife’s Guide called Makeover Your Morning Challenge. I was inspired to participate in this challenge for the simple fact that life can be draining and as a mother, I have no time for that! So, instead of complaining about my daily routine and to-do’s, I’d figure I give it to God…after all, God says “I am the LORD, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” (Jeremiah 32:27)
The next 14 days will consist of me waking up an hour before my family to spend time with God….to study His Word… to journal my thoughts, questions and desires and also to write His responses according to His Word. I hear of people waking up early to exercise and stay fit for the day’s journey, well, in my case, I will exercise my faith and will prepare for the day’s journey with praise and worship. To be perfectly honest, I know there will be obstacles that will prevent me from reaching the Lord in the morning, but that’s more fuel to my spiritual flame I have burning in me to get closer to the Lord.
So, who will take the challenge?
Obviously I put my own personal spin the the popular quote by Vivian Green
….but you get the point, right?
What does greeting cards, candy, flowers and Â breakfast in bed all have in common? Mother’s Day! Yes, the all too common holiday is just days away. If you’re unfamiliar with this holiday,Â Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate the things moms do (and didn’t do for your sake LOL) throughout the year. If you ask me, Mother’s Day means more work for mothers! How? Well, the weekend of Mother’s Day is just like any regular weekend for me.
Friday, I spend the day washing and folding laundry and completing housework. Saturday, a yard day and preparing the night’s dinner and getting the kids clothes together for Sunday. Sunday, we have church and the struggle to keep the kids clean. After service, back home to finish yard work, feed the family and get ready for the school week. Sounds pretty depressing huh?
So, how do I make this year’s Mother’s Day eventfully and different than the rest? Honestly, I don’t know! I love doing things for my little family. I enjoy cooking and time spent with them. Mother’s Day for me is everyday! Everyday, I am given all the love and honor just Â by being me… a mom! Now don’t get me wrong, QT is needed when you have a husband, 5 kids and a homestead, but enjoying my family is a blessing!
If I had to choose my top 3 gifts for Mother’s Day, I would pick:
3. The kids to get along for a full day. I have five kids which means 5 unique personalities clashing every 32 minutes (Trust me I have them down to a science!)
2. A slice of strawberry cheesecake and Oreo cheesecake TO MYSELF! I rarely eat sweets anymore because I am trying to keep make new figure, but when I want to splurge, I would like to do so on my own! My family love to share (on their own terms)! LOL
1. A clean house! Now I keep a fairly clean home but to have it cleaned without my help and done my way would be FREAKING AWESOME!!
(I hope my husband reads this so #2 can come true ASAP! The rest can happen over time…no rush! LOL)
So, now the tables have turned… what would be your top 3 gifts for Mother’s Day??
In the middle of yet another EXCRUCIATING, frustrating, exhausting conversation with my almost 20-year old daughter, I realized we just donâ€™t understand each other. We are not communicating, weâ€™re just talking. And worse, she has no idea what Iâ€™m talking about and thinks I have no idea what Iâ€™m talking about! She doesnâ€™t even care to listen to me. I never want to say â€œIâ€™m 46 and Iâ€™m right.â€ But the fact is, Iâ€™M 46 AND Iâ€™M RIGHT! Iâ€™ve been there done that and failed miserably at it. When I looked at her all I saw was myself at 20 making all the wrong moves, having the wrong attitude and not thinking like someone on the path to being a productive adult. So, I began to think how much better off I would be if I knew then what I know now and what things I would want my 20 year old self (and my almost 20 year old daughter) to know.
What I would tell my 20 year old self:
1. Listen more, talk less.
2. It’s ok to be wrong about something.
3. Be good to yourself.
4. Save/spend your money carefully. Don’t try to keep up with the Jones’…the Jones’ are in debt.
5. Take responsibility for your bad behavior (choices, decisions, actions, etc.)
6. Forgive…..yourself and others.
7. Know your worth and walk in it. Don’t settle.
8. Dream big. But wake up, get up and actually DO SOMETHING to make your dreams happen. No excuses, just results.
9. There’s a big difference between taking a “leap of faith” and “taking a flying leap”. Choose wisely.
10. Think. Then react.
11. It’s OK to ask for help. But remember to show gratitude not attitude. YOU need the help.
Thanks Tracie for your continual support and posts on my blog!
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A word I thought Â I would have never said a few years ago. Yes, I am married with a handful of babies, but you wouldn’t catch me in any such conversation. But, now is a different story! I grew up where no one talked about it, but EVERYONE did “IT”. My eyes have also see things that scarred me, but that is only because it wasn’t shown any respect or class. I am talking about sex. God created sex ONLY for one man and his wife to enjoy and to create. But why are CHRISTIANS so afraid to speak up about it?! Sex was created for married Christians! The world is unafraid and bold when it comes to sexuality, but the people whom sex was created for is silent and embarrassed. Well, not anymore!!
I was 19 years old when I got married and up until recently, I was afraid to engage into conversation about sex, even with my own husband! Sad, I know! There are a lot of people who are stepping into marriage blindly because someone was too embarrassed to be real with them. SEX IS NOT A BAD WORD!! Sex is a very spiritual and submissive act between husband and wife that has been abused by the world AND ignored by the church!
In marriage, sex is for creating but it is also for pleasure. Sex should not be a chore….it should be something you enjoy intimately with you husband or wife. BUT do not expect it to be your only form of expression for your spouse. Have date nights, text each other or write notes! Yes, people still do that…I still do that!… Surprise visits at the job. These small tokens help to enhance your marriage. Intimacy does not begin in the bedroom. Intimacy is a relationship. You can’t KNOW your husband or wife unless you know them. Same with Jesus; He is longing to spend time with you and to know you. You can’t know Him without a relationship!
Speaking of the bible, have you ever sat down and read/listen Song of Solomon? Oh my my!!! Talking about deep! Give it a go! Now i will not give you my interpretation of the book, but I will express ways to create sparks in your relationship with your husband or wife in the next post to this series!
Happy Anniversary to me!!! Well to my blog!
I cannot believe it’s been 2 years! I began blogging because I needed an outlet. At the time, my family and I were living in a small RV (recreation vehicle) with a busted ceiling and when it rained it poured! This blog was my rescue and release when I felt like giving up and or complaining. That was our season and God gave me the outlet of blogging.
Two years later, I have grown spiritually and I am much more mature in experiences and in advice giving. I feel that God has given me my obstacles to get someone through theirs or to at least encourage them through it.
Thank you to the faithful few that support my blog. In the future, I will be more consistent in content and will talk about latest topics and trends in marriage, family, children and Christian living. My focus is on the family unit. The family unit is under attack and I am one of the fighters for the sacredness and holiness of family and marriage.
Stay tune for insightful and motivating posts!
What is the most popular thing on television? You guessed it! SCANDAL!!
It all over the popular social networks and the talk of the town! I hear people rooting for this “Olivia Pope” and how her relationship to the President is unbreakable and real. One thing that has me highly offended and bothered is that “Mr. President” is married. What happened to the blessings and favor of marriage? Today’s society has no respect for it and sad to say is that we (Christians) are allowing such damaging content to enter into our homes. The bible clearly states, “Â Learn not the way of the heathen, and be not dismayed at the signs of heaven; for the heathen are dismayed at them.” (Jeremiah 10:2) The bible also declares, “No man can enter into a strong man’s house, and spoil his goods, except he will first bind the strong man; and then he will spoil his house.” (Mark 3:27)
So why are we so intrigued over lust and infidelity? What are we trying to figure out? Honestly, I tried to see what the fuss was about. I went on Netflix and saw the first episode of the first season and I could not stomach it! Television has motives now. .There is no such thing as wholesome entertainment. Marriage is under attack.
I am a woman and if you know me, you’ll know that I take my role as a wife and mother very seriously. Some may be offended by this but hey!! Women… saved women…whether you’re married or single: YOU ARE TO BLAME! We allowed shows like “Scandal” to play throughout our homes and wonder why you can’t have a committed relationship or a faithful marriage because you are basically expecting your husband or future husband to do what “Mr. President” did to his wife. You want the relationship that he has with Olivia which will send you BOTH to Hell!! Marriage is honorable and to disrespect this sacred covenant and GOD makes me question your “Fruit”. Â We are glued to this foolishness! Let me ask you this? Where’s your husbands when you watch this show? And if he’s sitting next to you with a bag of popcorn…smh!
Nothing will come in and dilute my home and marriage. It’s crazy because the same people who will change the channel when that disrespectful little boy, “Caillou” comes on because he will have a negative influence on your child is the same one who watches this show. That is so hypocritical!
Tell me what you think?